- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Not really. Here’s an amusing family get-together story… Right…
So, I get along fantastically well with my SO’s mother, I just adore her. We talk all the time, chit-chat on Facebook, follow each other on Pinterest, she even taught me how to sew! Last weekend I was at her house and she asked my SO and I if we would come over to her house (tonight) because one of her bridesmaids that she hasn’t seen in nearly 20 years was coming into town and she was planning a dinner. We said we’d love to.
Fast forward to tonight. I really love meeting new people. I’m the UW’s business school and they force-feed us networking so I’ve gotten to really enjoy chatting. It’s been great. Anyway, I get dressed up, looking forward to a night out after a Hell-week at school, and we show up at 6, the time we were told to arrive.
My SO’s sister is playing around with her new camera. She wants to start her own photography business. My SO’s mom says we should pose for her! “You guys can do like engagement pics for her portfolio, they would be so cute!” So I was all happy that she would say something like that. Her friend, the bridesmaid the dinner was in honor of, didn’t show up with her family until 7:30. She was an hour and a half late. But fine.
She shows up and everyone is standing in the livingroom. My SO and his sisters are very shy and a few minutes went by and the silence was starting to get awkward. So I said, “Hi, I’m Alica, nice to meet you guys.” And she says this…
“It’s nice to meet you too. Interesting you said ‘hi’ first when you’re not a member of this family, but okay.” And I was sort of dumbfounded. I hadn’t even thought for a second I could be misconstrued as rude. No one had said anything, I wasn’t interrupting. But, I sort of just smiled and shrugged and just chalked it up to… okay, maybe that’s not something that she likes to see done.
We all go outside and she goes around the table asking my SO and his sisters what they do. He says he just graduated in film studies, his sister says she’s going to school for creative writing, and his youngest sister says she’s not out of HS yet but like speech and debate. She turns to me and asks what I do. I tell her I’m in my final year of school studying finance and information systems and she says this:
“Well, that’s not very creative. Not fittin’ in with this brood.” And again I was like okay. Nice.
Then she asks Garth how he knows me. She knows this. I’m 100% confident that my SO’s mom told her I’m his girlfriend because when she asked me to dinner she said, “I told her about you and she’s anxious to meet you!” So, yeah. I’m not fooled. My SO responds, “She’s my girlfriend.” Her response?
“Hmm… Interrrrrreesting. Well… Okay then I guess.”
At that point I just sort of bowed out. After my week at school I was over an awkward dinner. I excused myself saying I had a prior obligation and we just got started too late but it was lovely to meet everyone, etc. etc.
But I’m still left with WTF was that all about. Sigh. If we were engaged I would have been like, “I’m not a part of this family yet but I’m closer to it than you are!” 😛 Or something. I suppose I should add my SO’s mom was in the kitchen preparing things when all these comments happened, so she didn’t hear. That’s handy. But then again, some people are just how they’re going to be.