Post # 1
hello to the hive!
i am not much of a poster here but reading these boards has helped me immensely in planning my wedding. our wedding took place a couple of weeks ago and it was PERFECT in (almost) every way! i am still on cloud 9 about it all. we only had 1 minor (or major?) mishap-
my sister in law accidentally bought the WRONG color bridesmaid dress. she got confused because i had changed my mind about the color a while back and she some how missed the email (i had the bridesmaids order their own dresses instead of using a bridal salon and doing it all as one order).
so when she showed up, she was horrified and embarassed. i was annoyed but at the time, so much was going on that i honestly did not even pay much mind to it (and reassured her that it would be fine) all of the other bridesmaids were in a deep plum and she was in a gray violet color. from far away, you cant REALLY tell but its very obvious from close up. and its definitely obvious in pictures. some people noticed at the wedding and thought i gave her a different color on purpose, thinking it had some meaning (though my own sister was in the same color as the other bridesmaids)
our photographer said she would photoshop her dress to look more like the others which makes me feel better, but i am just sad that this happened. i know my sister in law feels bad about it and i am not mad at her at all, i am just bummed at the situation. my best friend made me feel even worse when she proceeded to tell me “i told some of my girlfriends and they were horrified at what happened to you”
way to make me feel better-jeez….. now i feel WORSE
i know it sounds so shallow and petty. i know i am so lucky to be married to the man of my dreams and to have had a beautiful (almost)perfect wedding. i just feel insecure after the conversation i had with my best friend and need a little pick me up
thanks in advance!
Post # 3
your wedding is in the past. i think there’s no use in spending any more time thinking about this. you’ll drive yourself nuts and it really isn’t that big of a deal considering the rest of the day went off perfectly.
Post # 4
yes, i know. i honestly had moved on. but it keeps coming up when i re-hash the wedding with my friends (which is only natural i think, since it wasnt that long ago)….
Post # 5
@sugar610: Some people have the cake fall off the cake table, some people have that weirdo Aunt that gets drunk off her butt and makes a spectical of herself and some people have bridesmaids in different color dresses… In the end, count it as a memory that you can (and should) laugh at. It was an oversight, it happened, oh well… But you had an amazing day with the man you love. There are worse things, sugar! Hope you feel better!
Post # 6
I can write you a four page list of all the things that went wrong at our wedding. Some of them are really really really bad things that are leading to a lawsuit. BUT you know what, what happened happened. There’s nothing I can do to change it. At the end of the day, I got married to the man I love and the people I loved were there with us. The bad stuff I’ll deal with with my lawyer, but the great stuff is way more important to me!
Post # 7
Could you tell your friends that it’s not a big deal to you, but that you get sensitive when they bring it up? Perhaps they think they are being understanding and helpful and just need to be redirected. I’m so sorry to hear about the mix-up, but it sounds like you have handled it really well.
By the way, congratulations on your wedding/marriage!
Post # 8
First and foremost, congratulations on your wedding! Your friend didn’t mean any harm with her comment, I’m sure. I feel that maybe she was actually trying to make you feel better about it, in some way or another. I would not have approached it the way she did, however. I say you somehow bring this up to your friend and just laugh it off by using some of the examples stated above of things that could have REALLY gone wrong at your wedding! Show her that it really wasn’t that big of a deal (which it wasn’t)! As for your sister-in-law, I say you give her a call and talk about how great the wedding was and what not. I feel that this will help things get back to normal and you guys can move on from this, happily! 🙂
Post # 9
thank you all for your kind words- hearing people tell me that it was not in fact, that big of a deal, helps me a lot. youre right. i know my friends don’t mean any harm, i think they are just trying to be “on my side” when i was never even mad at my sister in law to begin with… i think sometimes girls like to stir up drama just to make things fun/interesting….
we had a couple other minor mishaps and embarassing situations, but in the end, it is all things that we can laugh at and make our wedding memorable!
Post # 10
That is lame that it happened. Great that the photographer can fix it in some of the pictures too. One day I bet you guys will laugh that off.. Or I hope you can! I don’t think that is an awful thing that happened.. compared to what else could have happened.
You know she didn’t do that on purpose that it was a misunderstanding!
Congrats on the wedding!
Post # 11
we had our groomsmen (our brothers) wear tuxes, vests, white shirts and neck ties. my DH’s brothers didn’t own tuxes so we bought them everything except the white shirt. we sent his brothers instructions to wear a plain, collared white shirt and a link to Amazon with an example of what we wanted. DH’s youngest brother showed up at the church wearing a tuxedo shirt which looked ridiculous with the neck tie. now I look at our pictures and just have to roll my eyes — it looks so bad it kind of makes me giggle.
all that to say that you’ll get over it — if that was the only thing that went wrong then you did pretty well. just like my BIL, your SIL didn’t do it on purpose and what’s done is done, sounds like it was a pretty subtle difference in color (if you couldn’t notice from a distance.
Post # 12
this happened to my best friend….except she was the one who showed up in the wrong color dress. the store made a mistake and gave her a much lighter shade of brown. She felt so bad but the bride was unphased and said it was no big deal. and it really isn’t. at the end of the day you had the people who matter most up there with you. who cares if one of them had a different color dress. No this has become a fun/funny story that we tell in our circle. but at no point were we “horrified” by the situation. we thought it was funny more than anything else.