(Closed) i just need some simple advice please

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

@unknow123: sounds to me like he is dealing with some things that are making it difficult to respond to your emotional and sexual messages. I could continue to be gentle with him but try to be direct about the changes you have noticed and that you want to help him and get back to being the couple you were.

Post # 4
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree that you really need to talk to him. It may be depresesion or a medical problem. Maybe set  aside a date night for the two of you to reconnect!

Post # 5
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4521 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I were you, I would just bring it up with him. Plain and simple. You can do it in a way that’s not accusatory. Tell him, “I feel like things have become a bit distant between us. Am I misinterpreting things? Is everything ok at work, with your family, with us? Talk to me.” 

Not in those words exactly, but that idea…. (((hugs)))

 

Post # 6
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Let him open up. Come to him calmy and kindly. Tell you you care very much about him, and you’ve noticed he’s a bit “off his game” (don’t ask questions) tell him you’re here for him and that if and when he wants to open up you’ll be ready and waiting with open arms. Kiss him and leave the room.

Post # 7
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553 posts
Busy bee

Since you two have been together for years and you would consider him your best friend, just speak up and be honest about your concerns. It sounds like things have certainly changed and he has to realize you have noticed. You have every right to better understand why he isn’t as interested lately, whether he plans to liven up again or not. Your satisfcation should be a top priority to him and I have no idea of his age, lifestyle or level of stress, but he could be experiencing erectile or arousal problems. 

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