(Closed) I just need to air this and get a few “It’ll be okay”s..horrible day (LONG)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow, so sorry you’re going through this.

Lean on FH. Hopefully, he’ll be a great companion through this. 🙂

Every cloud has a silver lining! Keep your chin up!


Post # 4
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a really sad story.  My words of advice:

If this is her first dui, the courts may give her a fine, make her take a few classes and suspend her license for a year.  The likelihood of her going to jail is very slim. 

Support your mother right now.  Tell her that she is going to get through this.  Also, make sure you tell her that you are not upset with her and stand by her side throughout this entire ordeal. 

Good luck! 




Post # 5
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

What a horrible downturn everything has taken! I am so sorry this all had to happen after things were going so well.

If your mom has not had a DUI before I’m pretty sure she will not have to do any jail time, but she should definitely get a lawyer to help her get the minimal sentencing possible if she can.

Look into medical transports or shuttles that can pick her up and bring her to her appointments. I don’t know if there are any, but it couldn’t hurt to check.

It sounds like your mom is going through a little rough patch. I know you can’t be there for her physically, but sending her a nice Hallmark card could be a good unexpected pick-me-up for her.

I don’t know what else to say, but I hope that the stress is minimal and that everything is relatively easily resolved. Hang in there!

Post # 6
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

so sorry to hear what you’re going through. if it makes you feel any better, just know you’re not alone in what you’re going through. you have FH, and you have the hive.

thankfully she didn’t fatally hurt herself or someone else. i know how hard it can be living so far from your family and feeling helpless when something goes wrong. just try to live your own life, offer love and support the best you can from where you are, and keep your chin up! tomorrow is another day. <3

Post # 7
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry about the accident! But like others have said, she’s alive. Talk to your FH, tell him your fears and troubles. Especially at times like this it’ll help so much to have him there. It’s going to be fine. 

Post # 8
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hang in there hun. I know what it’s like to have huge issues going on and you can’t be there. Sending ~HUGS~

Post # 9
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh I’m sorry things have bottomed out for you again!  The good news is your mom is alive – she does have many issues to sort out, but she will be ok and that is what’s important!  As the others have said, use your Fiance and tell him your worries.  He is there to support you in times like this!  Good luck sweetie 🙂

Post # 10
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

In situations like this it’s easiest just to realize that You have no Control over them. There is nothing you can do to help the situation; so you just have to go with it. Yes it is a very terrible situation but your mother put herself in the situation herself. Every person knows they shouldn’t be drinking and driving. Especially a person who is on regular medication. She should be setting a better example for her daughter actually (she knows that; that’s why she didn’t tell you; & ur dad did). I think you should be there for her. Offer an ear for her to vent; but know that it’s out of your control. It’s hard to just sit and wait and see how things pan out; but there really isn’t ANYTHING that can be done to change the outcome. What’s done is done. We deal with a lot of stress from my Fiance mother and it really has just become the easiest way to handle it. We don’t ignore the situation but we basically know it’s in her hands. Not ours. Hope things go well. The next few months will be tough; but at least you will know whats next after she goes to court.. Best wishes!

Post # 13
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh my goodness!! Like you, I, too, cannot understand why she won’t go see a doctor. That is scary, hun! I hope she is all right!

Post # 14
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


I just wanted you to know I am sending prayers for you and your family to get through all this okay.

Post # 15
11 posts
  • Wedding: February 2011

wow, that’s rough.  It sounds like your mom might have a serious problem between the depression and the drinking.  You can’t fix things and it’s not your job to.  Just be there emotionally to support her.  Have you thought about checking out an Al-Anon meeting?  I can’t imagine how difficult it must be for you, but I have a friend in a similar situation and she found the meetings really helpful.  Good luck!

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