(Closed) I just need to scream today!!! (It's an ex-wife thing)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ms.charming:  Aw *hugs* is there anything you can do to seek full custody? If all this abuse actually happened then it doesn’t sound to me like she is a fit parent.

Post # 4
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ms.charming:  I don’t have any advice, but I wanted to give you lots of (((hugs))).  What an infuriating situation, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this.

Post # 6
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Check with your lawyer to make sure the order was backdated to the date of the hearing.  Then forward that to child support enforcement and find out what you need to do to “recover” the overpayments.  They may allow you to skip a few months worth of payments in order to recover what she already received but you have to get permission from child support enforcement first to do it.  Again check with your lawyer.

Post # 8
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have no advice, just support. I’m in a similar situation with my Husbands two boys and there are many days I just want to cry because of her stupidity and abuse. 

Just recently she’s signed the eldest son up as mentally challenged (ADHD & slow learner [by half a grade only]) so that she can get $10,000.00 from the government. The money is for his education and special needs help in class, medication, etc. What is she doing with the money? Buying a car & paying off student loans. She hasn’t even told my Husband she’s done this yet and is still getting him to pay her full amounts for all medications on TOP of child support. 

Anyway, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, if you ever need to vent just PM me. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 10
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999


Post # 12
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry to hear this. I hate when loving, caring parents are treated so badly especially when the other parent seems unfit. I wish it was easier for people like you and your husband to get full custody when the other person is abusing the system.

Post # 14
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ms.charming:  I fully understand. The family court system is so messed up it’s not even funny. 


Post # 15
16 posts

I don’t have any suggestions just huge hugs! As a fellow step parent, it is one of the most hideously frustrating and stressful jobs ever. Of course the rewards are amazing too! I hate the constant feeling of powerlessness, the wait for the next mad and selfish thing the ex does and the fallout onto my poor SD.

I know you probably document everything and have picked a good calming mantra to recite whenever you think of or deal with her. I abandoned “f*ck of and die” as a mantra rather quickly though, wasn’t as soothing as you’d think πŸ™‚  good luck!!!



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