Post # 1
This might sound really knit-picky and bridezilla, but I am really dissapointed in our maid-of honor & best man speeches! It’s like they didn’t even put any thought into them… they just got up there and said like 10 words: “we are proud of you & always kiss eachother good night”… I felt like saying, umm this isn’t wher you give us marriage advice… this is where you relflect over our friendship and how happy you are that we have found our soulmates, etc. I would have been more happy if they read their speech! At least it would have had some substance… like there is no usable speech from our maid of honor &/or best man for our wedding video. 🙁 ok… I’m done venting! & now I sound like a self-centered bitch, but oh well! At least I got that off my chest!
Post # 3
I’m sorry you didn’t like it. Maybe they were nervous about speaking in front of a bunch of people? I was maid of honor for my best friend and she didn’t even tell me she wanted me to say anything, so I wasn’t prepared. It didn’t ruin her night, fortunately! I just said something short.
Post # 4
Our best man speech was disappointing too! He tried to wing it and really he just said “In all seriousness” like 6 times in 2 minutes.
Post # 5
Sorry to hear that you were disappointed in their speeches. To be honest, not a lot of people are comfortable speaking in front of large audiences. I think the fact that they toasted you at the reception means a lot…and most of the time, no one wants to hear a rambling best man or Maid/Matron of Honor go on about inside jokes only the bride and groom understand.
Post # 6
Sounds like pretty normal speeches to me. As a wedding guest I am THRILLED when the speeches are short and to the point. I can’t stand the ones where people drone on and ON…starting at kindergarten “I remember when we shared that pudding, you were so kind back then…” <eye roll> and then “in high school remember how you tipped over my canoe? I was so mad!” <zzzz…..>
Post # 7
Our best man really screwed the pooch on his speech and I’ve not entirely forgiven him over it. It was bad to the point that Darling Husband says he’d have picked a different Groomsmen to be best man, if he’d known how things were going to turn out… it was embarassing…
But all you can do is move on. Venting only helps for a little while. Sooner or later you have to let it go.
Post # 8
I agree. I have no desire to hear walks down memory lane or reflections on one’s friendship. A short message of congratulations is all that is necessary.
Post # 9
@Beckster329: Hee. Ours said “happy” about 20 times. He was just so …. happy. He’s really happy. And did I mention, that he thinks we will be … what’s the word … happy??
That said, I think it’s hilarious and it’s one of my favorite stories to retell. I guess I look at things that could be viewed as “not perfect” as funny things I’ll remember years later.
Post # 10
i kinda understand where your coming from. you just had a vision for what you wanted to hear but im sure this feeling will pass. i will be reviewing my Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man speeches, luckily they are both really goofy and have no problem being in front of a crowd .
Post # 11
@Sugarpug2012: haha, agreed! The guests usually can’t wait for the speeches to stop so they can start eating.
Sorry they were disappointing, but they sound pretty normal. It could have gone a lot worse. I’ve heard stories where roasts have gone wrong, where the speeches were embarrassing or Too Much Information, and I went to one wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor made the speech entirely about herself. Very few people are gifted speakers, and if you expect people to magically develop that skill for your wedding, you’ll probably be disappointed.
Post # 12
I wasn’t expecting all that much as I am afraid of public speaking too! But less than a minute of saying umm over & over, & standing there with blank faces, then saying “all I can say is always kiss eachother goodnight” was just kinda disappointing. I have definitely been to weddings when the speeches just lagged, but it just seemed like they didn’t even prepare. I told her to just read it, or at least hold the paper in your hand just in case. I definitely would not have minded if they stood up their & read their speeches. I just think that when you accept the role of maid of honor/best man, you know you are going to make a speech. I get really bad anxiety & panic attacks when I have to do public speaking, so when I was a maid of honor I spent a lot of time preparing/practicing my speech so it would be heartfelt & meaningful because I felt my friend deserved to feel special on her big day! I guess It just bothers me because it seems like they didn’t put any time or effort into their speeches. Oh Loll its over and done with & can’t be changed… Like my title said… I just need to vent! 🙂
Post # 13
that’s disappointing, however it is really better than the alternative – if they give a long, boring or inappropriate speech! I hope my sisters give me a a great speech, because the one I gave for my sister was awesome! My BIL’s brother who was his best man though gave an awful speech. He literally had nothing prepared and said “I haven’t gotten the chance to get to know BRIDE but she seems great and GROOM seems happy with her. Congratulations” It was sooo awkarddddd!
Post # 14
Like PP’s said, guests like short speeches. It helps keep the momentum going.
Post # 15
I love wedding speeches! Unfortunately if you look on the internet you will see lots and lots and lots of people saying the speeches should be as short as possible. Maybe it’s a cultural thing that in some parts of the world they need to be 30 seconds max. Why people can handle 2 hours of dancing but can’t handle 3 minutes of a speech is beyond me, but that’s the advice which is out there in some places and it looks like your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man followed it 🙁
Post # 16
I’ve heard some terrible wedding speeches, but I’m not too worried about our Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man. Our Maid/Matron of Honor is kind of OCD, so I know she’ll have it all written out on notecards. And our Bridesmaid or Best Man is an amazing public speaker. I’m excited to hear what they have to say!