(Closed) i just need to vent!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry you didn’t like it.  Maybe they were nervous about speaking in front of a bunch of people?  I was maid of honor for my best friend and she didn’t even tell me she wanted me to say anything, so I wasn’t prepared.  It didn’t ruin her night, fortunately!  I just said something short.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our best man speech was disappointing too!  He tried to wing it and really he just said “In all seriousness” like 6 times in 2 minutes.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Sorry to hear that you were disappointed in their speeches. To be honest, not a lot of people are comfortable speaking in front of large audiences. I think the fact that they toasted you at the reception means a lot…and most of the time, no one wants to hear a rambling best man or Maid/Matron of Honor go on about inside jokes only the bride and groom understand.

Post # 6
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@alicialoveschase:  

 

Sounds like pretty normal speeches to me. As a wedding guest I am THRILLED when the speeches are short and to the point. I can’t stand the ones where people drone on and ON…starting at kindergarten “I remember when we shared that pudding, you were so kind back then…”  <eye roll> and then “in high school remember how you tipped over my canoe? I was so mad!” <zzzz…..>  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our best man really screwed the pooch on his speech and I’ve not entirely forgiven him over it. It was bad to the point that Darling Husband says he’d have picked a different Groomsmen to be best man, if he’d known how things were going to turn out… it was embarassing…

But all you can do is move on. Venting only helps for a little while. Sooner or later you have to let it go.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree.  I have no desire to hear walks down memory lane or reflections on one’s friendship.  A short message of congratulations is all that is necessary.    

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Beckster329:  Hee. Ours said “happy” about 20 times. He was just so …. happy. He’s really happy. And did I mention, that he thinks we will be … what’s the word … happy??

That said, I think it’s hilarious and it’s one of my favorite stories to retell.  I guess I look at things that could be viewed as “not perfect” as funny things I’ll remember years later.

Post # 10
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i kinda understand where your coming from. you just had a vision for what you wanted to hear but im sure this feeling will pass. i will be reviewing my Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man speeches, luckily they are both really goofy and have no problem being in front of a crowd .

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Sugarpug2012:  haha, agreed!  The guests usually can’t wait for the speeches to stop so they can start eating.

 

Sorry they were disappointing, but they sound pretty normal.  It could have gone a lot worse.  I’ve heard stories where roasts have gone wrong, where the speeches were embarrassing or Too Much Information, and I went to one wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor made the speech entirely about herself.  Very few people are gifted speakers, and if you expect people to magically develop that skill for your wedding, you’ll probably be disappointed.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

that’s disappointing, however it is really better than the alternative – if they give a long, boring or inappropriate speech! I hope my sisters give me a a great speech, because the one I gave for my sister was awesome!  My BIL’s brother who was his best man though gave an awful speech. He literally had nothing prepared and said “I haven’t gotten the chance to get to know BRIDE but she seems great and GROOM seems happy with her. Congratulations”  It was sooo awkarddddd!

Post # 14
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Like PP’s said, guests like short speeches. It helps keep the momentum going. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love wedding speeches! Unfortunately if you look on the internet you will see lots and lots and lots of people saying the speeches should be as short as possible. Maybe it’s a cultural thing that in some parts of the world they need to be 30 seconds max. Why people can handle 2 hours of dancing but can’t handle 3 minutes of a speech is beyond me, but that’s the advice which is out there in some places and it looks like your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man followed it 🙁

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve heard some terrible wedding speeches, but I’m not too worried about our Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man. Our Maid/Matron of Honor is kind of OCD, so I know she’ll have it all written out on notecards. And our Bridesmaid or Best Man is an amazing public speaker. I’m excited to hear what they have to say!

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