(Closed) I just need to vent for a minute

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, I’m really sorry.  Have you ever tried to communicate this with her? hugs to you.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* I’m really sorry she’s not excited about your wedding. Is there a particular reason, like maybe she’s so nervous she can’t be excited? Or she doesn’t like some of the decisions you’ve made? I’M excited about your wedding!!!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) was she excited about your photobooth? I’m sorry you had to go through this 🙁

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Amanda.lynn, I feel your pain. Boy, do I ever!

My mother, who HATES weddings, went to a family friend’s wedding and raved about it (just after we were engaged). It was so beautiful, the bride was gorgeous, the dinner was lovely, blah blah blah…

Whenever I bring mine up, she acts like it’s the dumbest thing ever, questions all the etiquette (why can’t I show people what you’ll be wearing and tell my friends about it before you decide who to invite?), and thinks the whole thing is an uneccesary expense (we’re paying for it). She has even, in her not-finest hour, called the wedding “making a spectacle of ourselves.” It’s clear from her tone of voice that she is NOT in anyway happy or excited about the wedding. She doesn’t want to be in it, either.

Huh??

We’re really close, so this hurts. A lot! My Future Mother-In-Law is WAY more excited about the wedding than my own mom! Too bad she lives 3,000 miles away.

My mom will give me advice (like about fabrics) if asked, but it’s grudging. She is not at all excited. She likes my fiance, but she practically eloped and so did her mom. My dad is abroad right now, but my mom, who has almost always been there for me, just doesn’t want to hear about it.

Thank goodness for weddingbee! You and I can be 2011 buddies AND ‘our moms don’t care about our weddings’ buddies.

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Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oops. I don’t want to hijack your post! But KMSull is right: I want to know about your wedding! And I’m excited for you AND your fauxtobooth!!

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Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m with KMSull…I’m also excited for your wedding!!!!! I’m sorry your mother is being so unsupportive of your planning and wedding in general.  If there’s little to do about changing your mum’s excitement level, you need to surround yourself with others who are happy for you.  WB is probably a good place to start with that.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

sigh.. let me tell you a secret, i took pictures in a photobooth and the colors made me look like sh!t.. I think the fauxtobooths are much better lighting wise.  are you printing them out in on a digi camera?

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that your mother doesn’t seem to care about the wedding.  You and your Fiance care along with all the girls here at weddingbee!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Amanda.lynn —

I am so very sorry that this is happening to you, but I am so happy that your sister is there to support you.  Have you talked to your mom about how her reactions make you feel?  The reason I ask is because I went through this lack of enthusiasm with my mom.  As soon as I brought it up to her it was like it flipped a switch and now she is more involved in the planning.  Her rationale was that because I am very picky/determined/analytical, she was afraid to put in input.  She did not realize how much it meant that she be involved.  Maybe your mom just doesn’t realize how much you would appreciate her support?  And if she does, then it is her loss not to be more involved with such a special time in your life. 

I hope it all works out for the best!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Awww! I’m sorry! That’s why you have us (as much as you’d rather have your mom)-we’re here for you! 🙂

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