(Closed) I just paid my deposit and found out my vendor might not let me…

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Excited To Bee:  Are you having a cake too?

This sucks but I think the best thing to do is be ready with a great argument for why you should be allowed to have it with no fees.

Post # 5
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My argument would be that nowhere in the contract does it specifically say there will be a charge for that…. If that’s true in the case of your contract of course. I would also mention that your baker would take care of everything from setup to teardown and people would serve themselves so it doesn’t require staff or their materials, just space you have already paid for. Good luck! 

As far as the sorbet, unless it’s very common in your group/area I’d skip it. I have never had sorbet in between any meals and I really dislike it when food temps go from cold to hot back to cold. But I have senstive teeth… I know most people in my circle would just awkwardly stare at a mid-meal sorbet… 

Post # 6
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Excited To Bee:  Technically, your dessert table is part of your ‘wedding cake display’ so it should be fine, but some venues are sort of strict on this… 


Sorbet between courses sounds incredible, and I would say GO FOR IT!! And yes, champagne flavored sorbet sounds like a wedding day dream.


Your wedding sounds incredible!

Post # 9
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Excited To Bee:  My Advice is to pick a bakery that does a variety of things. That way you have the same vendor doing your cake to do it. So that way you are technically following the rules.

Post # 10
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I love sorbet, but I don’t know about in the middle of the meal.

Maybe you could serve it with the cake? Or before the cake? And maybe have another more traditional icecream available for those who don’t like sorbet?

I seriously hope everything works out with your vendor. I know how it feels to have random things come out of the woodwork from your vendor. The first vendor we chose [we only put a small deposit down], told us we couldn’t do our own catering, and had to take theirs. Fine, I loved the venue. Thank god I started planning the menu early.. I asked them for a list of what they included [for $39 a person].. I had choise of 1 app, 1 starch, 1 veg [which were all very crappy options], and choice of “entree”, they had things like bratwurst, and hamburger. I was NOT serving my guests bratwurst or hamburger! I called them up and was freaking out, so they told me they would “work with me”. They didn’t offer anything nice at all, so I went with chicken parmasean, soup, salad, buns & veg. They wanted $70 a plate for this. I ran away from that place!

I’m still in limbo searching for a venue =[.

Post # 11
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Many venues in NJ actually offer a sorbet in between meals to “cleanse the palate” I believe so it sounds good to me. Isnt that called an intermezzo?

Post # 12
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

“I love sorbet, but I don’t know about in the middle of the meal”

@jenilynevette:  I think it’s supposed to be a palate cleanser in this case, instead of a dessert.

Post # 13
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I don’t really understand the problem.  What exactly do you want to do that they’re telling you no?

If you want to bring in cookie favors or a candy bar or something, I don’t see why they wouldn’t let you, unless they want to provide it to you and charge you accordingly.

I love the sorbet idea, by the way!

Post # 16
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d only do sorbet if you’re having a very upscale, black tie event with white glove service. Otherwise it might seem a bit out of place and no one is going to care and it’s not worth the $ even if people do care!

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