(Closed) I just realized I haven’t talked to my mom since August.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I really want to help you out. But I think this one is up to you.

One side of me thinks : Screw them. If they feel the need to pull the happiness out of this exciting event then eff them. You don’t need that bull.

The other side of me thinks: Its still you mom right….. I have mom issues too and my mom totally disagrees with how I want to get married and I am almost ready to scrap the whole thing and elope.

I am sorry I didn’t help any… I hope you figure out what you want to do and my biggest piece of advice is follow your heart.

Personally I would invite the grand father for sure. You don’t have to talk to him just throw the thing in the mail. As for the God father…. meh. I wouldn’t.

But seriously follow your heart. It is your and you FI’s big day and you need to do what will make you two the most comfortable.

Post # 5
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What an awful situation =(  I’m so sorry to hear this is casting a shadow over your wedding planning!

I would wait until closer to the wedding to decide if you want to invite them or not.  It’s not like you have to send an STD to every person invited to the wedding.  It’s bad to not send an invite to someone who got an STD but you can totally send an invite w/o having sent the STD. 

Perhaps things will get better before the wedding?  

Post # 7
1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@calypso0712: I second this.

You don’t HAVE to send them a save the date… that is genius! Wait until you send out your invitations and see how things are then. And if its crap screw them then lol.

Post # 9
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am absolutely in the same boat as you misssydenyj!!! I’ve been having issues with my mom about my wedding since February. We stopped talking until May when she called me and went off on me again. I didn’t talk to her until the earthquake and the hurricane back in August.  It took a natural disaster for her to call me.  Anyway she thinks all is well even after she said some pretty nasty things to me and i found out she’s been lying about some things and I’ve just about had it.  I don’t want her at my wedding where I would worry and stress about what she might say or do to ruin the day. I’ve been struggling with that lately and at the moment I’m leaning towards not saying a word about when or where the wedding will take place. Since she said it was my first wedding that mattered to her anyway and not this one, then she won’t be missing much will she?

It totally up to you but I wanted to let you know that you’re not alone in this dilemma. I do like the idea of not sending a Save the Date and playing it by ear until it’s time for the invites to go out. That will probably be what I do.

Good luck!


Post # 11
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Considering the background in your other posts, I can’t see how having a happy day would be possible with these people around. Unless something dramatically changes, I would leave them off the invite list. Hard to say, but I think any bee who is going to throw out the “Oh, but it’s your MOM/grandpa/whatever’ needs to read the other posts first, they’ll probably change your mind, OP has been through a lot with them =(

Post # 13
1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@misssydneyj: **HUGS** Good luck! I know how painful family can be some times.

Post # 15
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I believe very strongly that you don’t have to put up with abusive people just because they are related to you. If it were me, I’m not sure I’d invite them, either.

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