Post # 1
SO said a proposal is “coming soon” but the anticipation has been driving me in-sane in the membrane.
But the thing is, he also told me in September that he’s not financially ready for the ring yet.
And he also asked if we can only spend $25 on Christmas gifts this year since he is saving up for us to get engaged.
…and today, SO left his stuff all over the bed when he got home including a ton of receipts and a bank slip and I already know I probably should not have peeked but I did and there is over $12,000 in his account.
I’m going crazy.
WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF THIS!
Post # 3
Maybe he is trying to pay off some bills or maybe wants to spend like 15k on a ring for you! Hang in there…if you guys are talking about weddings then it will come.
Post # 4
How much did you expect for him to spend on a ring?
Obviously, he’s lying.
Post # 5
@mwitter80: I know right. But I don’t know how much he is thinking about spending. I do know he feels strongly about keeping “extra” money for rainy days, so whatever he is spending, he wants there to be a lot of money left in his account. He is very careful with savings in that sense.
So, I’m still not sure what to make of it!
Post # 6
Um, insufficient data to draw any conclusions?
No idea what are his monthly bills, if that’s where he keeps his 6 months emergency money (you both have that right?), if this is his only bank account, etc.
Post # 7
@kay01: Yes, this is how I felt – I can’t reach a conclusion of what it means, and it is driving me crazy.
And yes, the “normal amount” he keeps in there is usually in the range of about $2,000 – $5,000
Post # 8
Could be anything really. I wouldn’t think too much into it though. You’ll drive yourself nuts.
Post # 9
does he get a christmas bonus for work and this could be it? im currently processing my bonus payroll and i have guys that split the value (or 100% of it) into different accounts so their wives dont see the full value – what they do with it i have no idea
Post # 10
@eloping: That was a good idea, but No they do holiday “gifts” instead of bonuses where he works (LOL I will take a bonus in cash any day!)
Post # 11
I would be excited if I were you because if he usually keeps 2-5K in that account, this at least demonstrates that he’s saving. You can rest assured that he is working hard to make things happen for the two of you. 🙂
Post # 12
I think it’s pretty exciting – sounds like he’s saving up for a ring, and depending on how much he’s going to spend, he may be very close!
Post # 13
Maybe he tranferred money from savings to checking (or whatever the accounts are) to use it to buy the ring. Not trying to purposely get your hopes up, but I think it might be a good sign…!
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Post # 15
Maybe he just hasn’t “bought” the ring yet. It doesnt mean he hasnt put one on deposit. You usually pay the rest when you collect 🙂
Post # 16
Um, maybe he’s just being financially smart? $12,000 isn’t an insane amount of money to have in savings. Also, I think you really shouldn’t be looking at his bank account information. Fiance and I live together but have separate accounts, and I would never dream of sneaking peeks at his financial info (we’re up front about it, we know generally how much cash is on hand, but I don’t see his statements and vice versa).
I also think it’s unwise to jump to conclusions, especially one like this that’s really getting your hopes up.