Post # 1
This is my third month of ttc. I knew my first month would be a bfn and I really felt like sept would be my month. Nope! Now I’m just finished my fertile window and due to my mil visiting AND getting a sinus infection this past week we’ve only dtd twice in my fertile window. Once was when I got a positive opk so fingers crossed but I doubt it. I just want to be pregnant so badly. My younger sister had a baby this year with a guy she had only just met. And my BFF got pregnant on her FIRST month of trying! Like come on! She said they only dtd during her fertile week and that’s it!
i also stopped taking my allergy medication because I was worried it was making my cm too thick. If im not pregnant this month I’m going to my doctor to see if there’s any testing I can do. My husband and I are both young and healthy so I feel like it should happen within three months. I’m so terrified that there’s something wrong with me 🙁
Post # 2
gonatgo: im worried too. Thos os my first month of TTC. My period ended Oct 5 and we DTD Oct 5th, 8th, and yesterday. Im not expected to ovulate until the 18th, but I am going with the DTD every other day. I don’t want to get my hopes up as I might not get pregnant the first try. I worry I will have trpuble too. I have bad baby fever
Post # 3
gonatgo: I hear you! We are on cycle #5 TTC and it’s frustrating. I really thought it would be sooner, too! I am trying to keep things in perspective…which is hard but these stats might help. It is perfectly normal for it to take 12 cycles for a healthy young couple to conceive!
Here are some great weddingbee threads for support
Join us on the Oct 2014 POAS board
Feel free to just jump in…there’s a bunch of posts so don’t feel like you have to catch up. I’m keeping the list this month and we’d love to have you. It’s a great bunch of ladies who encourage and celebrate.
Also Charters of the Hive-
This group is made up of any ladies who are charting, some TTC, some TTA but it’s a great place to learn and find resources and support if you’re charting or learning to chart!
Post # 4
gonatgo: I’m on my 6th cycle trying… & I am young myself early 20’s and still haven’t gotten my BFP & I thought it would be easy too.
I honestly think you should wait it out to go and check with your doctor, 3 months of TTC is not that long… I read that it may take up to 6 months to a year for most people, but it all depends.
Post # 5
gonatgo: doctors usually wont see you unless you’ve had an active year of trying without success
Post # 6
HeyJude72: I’ve been charting too, but I missed days because I wake up so suddenly and start moving around before I remember to temp. But I have seen a temp drop two months in a row right around O day
Post # 7
gonatgo: Don’t stress yourself out! Just try to stay calm. You are young so there is nothing to worry about until about a year of trying with no success. Has your Darling Husband taken a test? You could do that now just to rule that out.
Post # 8
livelaughlove628: I was thinking 6 months as well but I remember when I told my doctor we were going to start trying I think he said come see him if nothing happens after three months.
I’m also out for next month because my hubby planned a trip for my entire fertile week! Ugh I wish he consulted with me first.
Post # 9
I know it feels like a very long time, but 3 months is nothing. Really, it’s not! It’s frustrating when you know you’re ovulating and BDing the ‘right’ time, but sometimes it just does take longer. It took Darling Husband and I 11 cycles/10 months, we are both young and have no real health problems, and I’m currently 23w+2d pregnant with a little boy! Please try not to worry too much. Good luck 🙂
Post # 10
I know how you feel. We are on our 7th month trying. It sucks. Doctor of course won’t see me until it’s been 1 year.
Post # 11
gonatgo: I’m going to be honest, and please understand that I totally get why you’re frustrated and starting to get nervous, but three months really isn’t that long. I know at three months I was thinking WTF!? too, but did you know that in otherwise perfectly healthy couples it is totally normal for it to take up to a year to get pregnant? That is, with no fertility issues at all, a year would not be out of the ordinary. My best advice, relax, take your vitamins, exercise, make healthy choices, and use ovulation kits so you know exactly when you’re ovulating. Your doctor may be willing to do some easy hormone tests early, but do expect to pay out of pocket for anything further as most doctors and insurance companies will not perform or cover extensive testing before the 12 month mark. Honestly, opening yourself up to testing and possibilities of infertility is a bit of a pandora’s box…once you go down that road it can be very stressful with lots of testing and can make you just feel worse. For example, I don’t have any issues that are clear to my RE just yet, but in the last year I’ve had a million blood tests, one test to confirm open tubes, one surgery to re-confirm open tubes and no known internal issues, and one ectopic surgery where I lost a baby and a fallopian tube. I am still not pregnant and there are still no obvious issues. I am also only 30. This has all happened within a year of trying, and has been super stressful and sad. Just…take it easy, and don’t assume you’re broken because you didn’t get knocked up in two seconds. Good luck to you.
Post # 12
Lillyrose: thanks! And congrats on your little boy!
it just sucks when you know there’s people that get it in the first try. We also haven’t used any form of bc since we got married two years ago. I mean we didn’t dtd very often until we started trying but I just feel like we should have had an oops or be expecting already! I guess the 2 years of npnt makes me worry because absolutely nothing happened in those two years
Post # 13
I know the feeling! My obgyn said only 30% of couples get pregnant the first three months, obviously stats vary but she won’t see anyone until a year of trying. I would love for it to happen this month but am fully expecting it to take a very long time. It sucks when I see people in my brothers high school class getting pregnant after a one night stand, it’s crazy.
Post # 14
gonatgo: 3 months is nothing! I didn’t get pregnant until our 15th month TTC! I know its frustrating…just hang in there!
Post # 15
I’m on my 16th month trying and it doesn’t get any easier. Just try to relax and I’m sure it will happen for you.