(Closed) I just wanna vent….I feel it was rude.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@jesssamesssa: I am sorry to hear that you had to experience such a stressful situation during your bridal shower. How sweet to have you half-sister surprise visit you! Smile

I totally understand that you are upset about your BMs not coming and the one cancelling on your mother last minute. That is a bit rude of them, they should had let her know earlier than that. However, I dont want to sound harsh and trust me, I would feel so upset too, but maybe they didn’t think they had to come.

Sometimes it is mentioned here on the Bee that the only responsibility of a Bridesmaid or Best Man is actually to show up in her bridesmaid dress at the day of the wedding. Sometimes, a lot of those other wedding related events (bridal shower, bachelorette etc. ) can be a bit much…

The one who could not get time off work. You are saying that “I understand work….but you can’t ask off?” and that they have known for over a month. I have to say, no sometimes people cannot ask to take time off. Especially if she just returned from holiday! So please don’t hold that against her, I am sure it wasn’t a lack of her trying….

The other bridesmaid, who didnt realise that it was a 3 hour drive. I feel you, I would think that a lack of her trying as well. However, maybe she was tired from work, maybe she didnt feel all too well to travel 6 hours at one weekend. There could be many reasons for her not showing up… I am sure she didnt mean to hurt you!

As for the “fake” Tiffany’s & Co jewelry gift of your mum’s friend, I have to say that I think it is a bit rude of you to slam her like that. It’s a gift! She probably meant to please you and make you happy. You said it was your party’s theme and she probably wanted to give you something speacial but could not afford the real thing.

It’s actually very sad that you discredit her like that! It does not matter if she behaved stupid but a gift is a gift and at least it’s thoughtful as it matched your theme. As I said, she probably wasnt able to buy the real deal but was too embarrassed about addmitting it. Hence, trying to pass it off as real Tiffany’s & Co jewelry.  

Post # 4
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

With the bridesmaids you say you understand but i dont think you fully understand. 3 hours is a very long drive and i wouldnt be mad at anyone for not being able to make it. Of course it was easy for you to do, it was your wedding and your family. Yes they could have given a bit more notice but id just let it go. They gave you notice. 

As fo the friend. I actually feel its kinda tacky and rude for her to pass off something she knows as fake for the real thing. I see where you coming from with that, its like she lying to you. Im the type of girl where if its not the real deal please dont give me imitations, give me something without a name, please. Ill proudly wear the non name.

Post # 5
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah, you may be overreacting just a little with your bridesmaids. I would let it go. Work and travel are actually decent excuses. I’ve copped gems of excuses (“My friend’s new roommate’s dad had a heart attack so I went to the hospital with them and you’re engagement party totally slipped my mind”).

Be happy you got to see your half sister! And honestly, even if it’s fake, it’s the thought that counts and it was Breakfast at Tiffany’s themed so really, it was kinda clever. 

Post # 6
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Wait did your mum’s friend actually say “jessamessa do you like the tiffany bracelet I got you, it is real you know?”

As for the BM’s I think you are overreacting and expecting too much. Did you ever think that maybe they couldn’t afford the gas to get there? That they have their own lives and problems?

Post # 8
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jesssamesssa:  girl I’d be pissed too! And I don’t care what anyone says about being grateful for every gift – sometimes gifts are tacky and ridiculous – such as trying to pass cheap fake jewlery off as real. This is a place you can come to vent about it!its not like you said something to her face or even complained to your mom. People need to re-lax on the miss manners sh*t we live in real life. 

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