Post # 1
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307 posts
Helper bee
Hi Bees,
Feeling a little down today. Dh and I have been keeping the secret that we are pregnant for 10 weeks now. It’s killing me, but since we don’t live near our families…it’s been pretty easy hiding it. Today I broke down and finally told one of my coworkers because she witnessed me being sick and I had no other excuse. I’m not telling anyone else for at least a few more weeks, but I also was glad that I had someone to look out for me at work for the time being (I’ve been so sick). I expected her reaction to be excited (she loves kids) but it was kind of lackluster-like she was scared for me. She was like “ok, I won’t tell anyone, don’t tell anyone else, you didn’t want this, did you?” That REALLY upset me. I’m not super close with this coworker, but I consider her a mentor. That doesn’t mean I would detail my sex life to her at work or anything-I like to consider myself very professional. I really wanted to be like “actually, it took us over 8 months of trying!” However, now I’m worrying when we finally do tell people (our families and friends mostly) they wont be as happy for us as I hope they would. DH is 30 and I’m 27 and we both come from big families and are over the moon. I’m just really hormonal today and want to cry. Sorry for the vent.
Post # 3
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1718 posts
Bumble bee
Firts off Congrats!!!! Know that I am excited for you 🙂 I love babies and want on so bad, it’s just not the right time, sadly. Now for your post, she’s a coworker, you cannot base your family’s reactions off of hers. I’m sure your family and friends will be super excited for you. I think you need to just go home sit on the couch with DH and cry a little and then try to be positive and talk about your little bundle of joy with the man who is most excite about this.
Post # 4
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26 posts
Newbee
Congratulations!
Sometimes people have difficulty accepting good news. Unfortunately, no matter how happy they might be for you, they ultimately filter it through their own feelings and experiences. This coworker may not want kids at all, or has her own ideas of the right time to have children. Therefore, she might have the had a knee-jerk reaction that came out all wrong. My fiancé proposed yesterday and when he told his mother, she said, “Oh, okay.” and then told him tips on how to save money. There was no congratulations and he was really hurt. Obviously she has a lot of feelings about her first child getting married, but she is in Florida right now and maybe she is just disappointed that she wasn’t here for the proposal, and that she won’t be coming back for another two months to celebrate. I write off when people put their foot in their mouth, because nobody can say the right thing 100% of the time. If you are happy, bee happy!
Post # 5
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1180 posts
Bumble bee
Congratulations! That’s great news after 8 months of trying. Hopefully you’ll feel better soon.
Post # 6
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
Congratulations! That is really exciting 🙂
I think, like the previous poster, that she may have thought that you were unhappy about the pregnancy because you didn’t talk about TTC or announce your pregnancy to everyone right away.
If I had been on the receiving end of that comment, I would have just politely say something like “We were trying for a baby and are very excited, but for the sake of being professional, I didn’t want to tell anyone at work about xyz”.