(Closed) I just want people to be happy for me

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Firts off Congrats!!!! Know that I am excited for you 🙂 I love babies and want on so bad, it’s just not the right time, sadly. Now for your post, she’s a coworker, you cannot base your family’s reactions off of hers.  I’m sure your family and friends will be super excited for you.  I think you need to just go home sit on the couch with Darling Husband and cry a little and then try to be positive and talk about your little bundle of joy with the man who is most excite about this.

Post # 4
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Newbee

Congratulations!

 

Sometimes people have difficulty accepting good news. Unfortunately, no matter how happy they might be for you, they ultimately filter it through their own feelings and experiences. This coworker may not want kids at all, or has her own ideas of the right time to have children. Therefore, she might have the had a knee-jerk reaction that came out all wrong. My fiancé proposed yesterday and when he told his mother, she said, “Oh, okay.” and then told him tips on how to save money. There was no congratulations and he was really hurt. Obviously she has a lot of feelings about her first child getting married, but she is in Florida right now and maybe she is just disappointed that she wasn’t here for the proposal, and that she won’t be coming back for another two months to celebrate. I write off when people put their foot in their mouth, because nobody can say the right thing 100% of the time. If you are happy, bee happy!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congratulations! That’s great news after 8 months of trying.  Hopefully you’ll feel better soon.Smile

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Congratulations! That is really exciting 🙂 

I think, like the previous poster, that she may have thought that you were unhappy about the pregnancy because you didn’t talk about TTC or announce your pregnancy to everyone right away. 

If I had been on the receiving end of that comment, I would have just politely say something like “We were trying for a baby and are very excited, but for the sake of being professional, I didn’t want to tell anyone at work about xyz”. 

 

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