- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I reallllly just want to skip the next few months and it to be January 1, 2012!
Future Mother-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law are bipolar. I understand this, and can sympathise with them and their “outbursts,” but what I can’t help but to get emotional about is when they say hurtful words that you can never take back, and a “I’m sorry” will NEVER fix… After 3 1/2 years, you’d think I’d be okay with all of it and understand that’s just how my life will be with them for the rest of my life, but it’s just not that easy. Why can’t they just be happy for us?
Okay, so Future Brother-In-Law is the baby, he JUST moved out like a month or so ago with his gf of 8years, who was accepted into pharmacy school – YAY!! 😀 .. They moved 3 1/2 hours away from us which we were sad, because I LOVE his gf and I do love Future Brother-In-Law.. FH and I both took off time from work, my day off wasn’t paid, but we took off to help them move.. There was no “thank you,” or anything, but before helping them, FH and I discussed that Future Brother-In-Law wouldn’t even be thankful – He NEVER has been, and apparantly growing up together he never was either. Not for the things ANYONE does for him. Future Brother-In-Law has always been immature, his parents babied him because he is the baby! He’s been unemployed for the last like 3 years, his parents have been paying for everything. Now that hes living with his Girlfriend, she’s paying for everything. Prior to them moving, she was going to school & working both full time, and saving money for when they moved away.. So her savings and student loans will be paying for all of the utilities, rent, etc.. FH thinks hes using her, but idk. I’m sure they do love eachother, but thats aside from the point..
The big fight 3-4 days ago was over Future Brother-In-Law not liking khaki pants & a white shirt to wear for the wedding.. He wanted to wear what he wanted, but FH said “no, I want everyone to match” (obviously)
To sum it up, now Future Brother-In-Law thinks FH is making a mistake by even getting married, not just necessarily to me – Future Mother-In-Law has now gotten involved, says I’m mean to Future Brother-In-Law (even tho I stick up for him, and havent said anything mean or negative about him) so FH told his mother & brother theyre not in the wedding.. Ugh :/
Anyway, with all the wedding planning and family stress, I called our insurance company today, and they’re gonna find a therapist I can vent to and to see maybe how I can better deal with his family? I’m starting to feel insecure about FH and I, even though he reassures me its not me, its his family (FH said from day 1 of talking about marriage that he knew his mom would make problems when it came to us getting married & always said he wanted to elope) .. He told his family they need to apologize to me etc.. So I’m thankful that hes “on my side,” even though I hate to put it that way.. but at the same time I feel bad because I don’t want to be the reason there’s a problem with their relationship.. Although I know fron day 1 FH and his family have never been, well, a family. They dont have a relationship and I guess I feel bad for FH because I have an amazing relationship with my family..
Thanks for letting me vent – Sorry for those who actually read it, I know it’s long, but I feel slightly better for “saying it.”