(Closed) I just want to cry for a while =(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry 🙁 

Does your Fiance know you’re crying?

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Since when does he get to make all the decisions without your input?

I would insist that we sit down together until we worked out a plan that we both agreed to.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Whoa, I would not be cool with any of that at all.  That doesn’t sound like he’s being very respectful to you or your feelings.  I would sit down with him and spell out the budget that you all need to have for the bare minimum and maybe he’ll realize that a new truck and windows aren’t in the cards.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would tell him how you’re feeling…..I agree with julies- he doesn’t get to make all the decisions without your imput. 

*hugs*

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you are being petty at all. I am guessing here that he provides for both you and your son right now ( except for maybe child support from the father). A new job, which depends on commission, is a scary thing to rely upon. I would be scared if I were you, and a little ticked off to be honest. I just feel like he should have talked to you about quitting his last job, and discussed what the best options for you guys  as a family are, before making any rash decisions.

Don’t get me wrong, many people live off of sales commission, so its not like its the end all and be all, you guys will starve. But it is a scary thing to rely on something that doesn’t have a steady paycheck. Because let’s be real, $400 bi weekly ( if it is bi weekly) is hardly enough to cover basic necessaties.

Moving is also stressful, with your son already having a home and all. Why is it that you guys have to move?

Also, what is with the 3 vehicle deal? Why do you have to sell your car? Does he have a car to sell, so he can get a truck? Because I don’t think you should have to be without a vehicle especially with a child to take to school, and activities and such.

I don’t have a wack of advice, but I would express my fears to my fiance if I were you. I hope the job works out for him, and you guys are able to move forward together productively.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

@HappilyEverAfter54: Tell him that! Go wake his ass up and tell him! There’s no reason for him to force you to sell your car because he wants a truck. He also shouldn’t have quit his job without talking to you. Being unemployed doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice.

Trust me, I feel you on the car thing. Having my own car is extremely important to me. It is one of those things that gives me freedom and is mine and mine alone.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54:

Ok so I would tell him flat out no. Tell him that he can sell his new car, and get a truck. At least he wouldn’t owe as much on the truck then right? It’s ludacris he can keep both a car and a truck, and you are left without anything. I would not stand for that. Please do not stand for that.

Regarding the move, well, I would probably feel out this job before you make any sudden moves, an hour drive to work really isn’t that bad, people do it everyday ( I know gas is expensive though). Just keep your eyes open for a nice place in your budget close to where you need to relocate, but don;t move right away, as you don;t know how this new job will even pan out.

I’m pissed off for you, that he quit without discussing this with you. I would support my fiance in any job decision, but we would have to have a plan first, as we have bills to pay, and a child to take care of.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did he change it thinking you would be happier due to the hours and time spent?

I’m so sorry you are going through this, money can be a very serious issue and I know there is a lot at stake including your independence.

I think you have yourself a great guy who has been supporting you and your child and I don’t think he is going into this Job with the negativity and failure rate that you are projecting.

Definitely talk it out with him!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Don’t have any advice that hasn’t already been said, but I hope you all can talk about this and reach a compromise!  Hugs and good luck!

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