(Closed) I just want to cry

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 6
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

ugh that blows. im sorry! i am in a similar positing at my job in that i have been here a long time with no advancement. when i started i was told there was a lot of room for growth in this position and yet people who have been here years less than i have are promoted while i stay the same. in my case there isnt a position to progress to. my boss is the next in command, but i get how frustrating it is because i have had several meeting about evolving my position and yet… nothing.

i agree that you should start looking elsewhere. 

Post # 3
590 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry you feel like that! Have you been sending out resumes to try and get a new job without just quiting? If I were you I would actively search for a new position that you will actually like!! It sucks when you do your best and still get looked over. Hugs!

Post # 4
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh. I’m so sorry. I agree with Josina, put together a resume and start applying to external jobs too. FWIW it doesn’t sound like it’s your performance. If you’ve been there 6 months, and they promised raise and benefits after 6 mos, can you ask HR to look into it?

Post # 5
8455 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with Josina, just start sending out resumes.  You deserve to work at a place that appreciates you.

Post # 8
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you spoken with a supervisor about what kinds of things you can do to help increase your chances of getting the next promotion that opens up? If there are other supervisors that you may feel more comfortable with but aren’t your direct supervisor, you could ask them what you would need to do to get promoted onto their team.

A lot of HR decisions, especially at big companies, are made by HR people who may not be able to observe your day-to-day work; they usually have a checklist of skills and accomplishments, but they don’t know the jobs well enough to be able to evaluate the candidates without the checklist in front of them. So you may have more success with some guidance on what you can do and document before you try again, plus you may be able to find out the exact wording you need to use.  Like the HR checklist might require you to have “fluent Spanish” but you put on your resume “conversational Spanish.”  Really that comes down to the same thing but if the person making the decision doesn’t know that it’s the same thing, they skip you and move on to the next person. This is where a supervisor’s input can be really helpful.

You will also usually get better feedback from a supervisor about going for a position that doesn’t exist yet, than you will from HR about why you weren’t chosen for a position that someone else got. That’s because the HR departments are always afraid of being sued, and will never say a word about why any specific hiring decision was made.

Post # 10
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I just wanted to say I’m so sorry–DH is a manager at a call center, and the stories he tells…I know those are crappy jobs, and getting any sort of help can be impossible.

One piece of advice I can offer is to try to switch to a different department, instead of trying to get them to view your escalation status as an asset?  (Which it absolutely is!) Darling Husband took calls before transferring to records, and then to WFM where he climbed straight on up.  He just found that he was really not suited for the call-taking atmosphere and politics, but a great fit elsewhere.

Also, is there a corporate HR you can reach out to, if the one for your building is no help?

Post # 11
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This situation sucks. If I were you instead of sending an impersonal letter to Hr, talk higher ups whom you know and work with .Ask them for their advice and constuctive criticism since they know you and work with you they will probably be in a better position to tell what you doing wrong and what you are doing right.


I do agree if you hate the job and don’t see any potential for growth, then dust off your resume and start trying to find another job. It sounds stressful, hopefully everything works out for you. Good luck!

Post # 12
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m so sorry you’re in that position! If I were you I would definitely try getting my resume out to other companies. I was stuck in a company that was run horribly and it really affected my happiness. You deserve to be happy and have a job that appreciates you! Have you checked out openings on craigslist? They usually have a lot of admin/customer service listings. Good luck!

Post # 14
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I was talking to Darling Husband about this last night, and he said he can see why your escalated position would be a detriment.  His best advice (keep in mind he’s management, but not HR) was to go to HR with a list of what you are willing to offer to get OTHER people escalated.  Either training, or covering shifts so that they can get the training they need to complete the certification.  He said from what you’d written here, it sounded like you were too valuable to move up, so you had boxed yourself in, and until other folks get escalated status, there was a good chance you were stuck.

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