(Closed) I just want to give up.. make it go away

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
Member
138 posts
Blushing bee

This is not new to many. It can be very stressful and there are many emotions involved. Have you considered hiring a planner? Don’t look at it as an extra expense…..a planner can help you save in many areas and that will help cover their fees.

If not a very organized, professional, and trustworthy friend.

Hang in there…just try to stay on top of everything as much as possible and there may be times you just have to take a few days. Remeber to have fun and also relax during the process.

Wishing you the best πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@manders83: (((hug))) just walk away for a couple of days… there isn’t anything that won’t keep.  Once you’ve got the venue, everything else is really just details.  I know what you mean, though. 

Post # 6
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324 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, absolutely. I HATED finding a venue. It was so stressful, that I would break down and cry and have stress dreams and nightmares. I’d say, I just started this but I don’t want to do this anymore! Now that we finally found a place that’s a good fit, I feel so much better.

You WILL find something that works for you. Just give it a little bit of time. Maybe take a break. Do you have anyone that can help you search? Sisters, cousins, friends, etc?

 

 

 

Post # 8
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13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

oh good lord sweetheart, I HATE wedding planning my own wedding. its so hard and stressful. not fun like everyone says. I cry and snip at my Fi all the time. ugh. what a mess. I even walk away for a week at a time and as soon as I jump back in it stresses me out. bleh. sorry hun πŸ™

i also don’t have any help πŸ™ my mom was diagnosed with cancer right after we got engaged and I know she wants to help a bit but with all shes going through I can’t bring myself to add that stress to her. and not to mention our budget is like, $7000 MAX. I can’t even have a photographer unless its a family friend and the photography is the MOST important part to me πŸ™ Idk what to do. so sad…

Post # 10
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Finding the venue has so far been the most stressful bit for me. Our wedding is not until September 2012 but everywhere was already getting booked up for that time a couple of months ago.

We saw loads of venues and some I liked but my fiance didn’t, some he liked and I didn’t, some we both liked but couldn’t afford. We eventually found one that was not only amazing value for money but was a new building that was just beautiful, especially for the money.

But the problem was they had no dates on any Friday’s or Saturday’s (our preferred days) for the whole of Septmeber, or even early October. They only had Thursdays and Sundays. So we settled for a Sunday.

THEN I had some problems with rudeness from the staff and a slack wedding coordinator which nearly put me off. I eventually scheduled a meeting with the wedding coordinator and after realising my concerns she was far more helpful. The other staff I will not have to deal with. I can tell you now, after that meeting I felt A LOT better and can actually start looking forward to planning it.

The venue seems to be a really stressful part, and the part where a lot of people feel like throwing in the towel, it can be so disheartening when the ideal venue, both to your taste and budget doesn’t just pop up when you need it. But you’ll find it!

I actually have to find another venue soon, as we’re having 2 ceremonies due to our different cultural backgrounds…..but I’m leaving that to him and his family…I cannot do it again aaaaggggghhh! πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
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138 posts
Blushing bee

@manders83 The coordinator that accepted your retainer that you paid her should deliver the service point blank! With that said what services did you book her for? Is there a contract in place?

Ladies ANY coordinator that you book professional or the “professional” (aspiring planner that planned 1 or 2 small events) be sure to get a contract with them. This is your wedding and it is very important to you. If she cannot provide the client services and understand that you have never planned a wedding before…..this is not the planner/coordinator for you.

@manders83 Please PM me if you have any questions I am more than willing to answer them for you and assist you with getting things on track and tips for the retained coordinator. Of course I am in the MD area but we can communicate via email.

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