- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
wedding planning has made me go a little insane i think, and i need a place to vent. sorry, bees, but i’m unleashing my fury on the hive, just for tonight. maybe some of you can relate.
i think i have been a good bride, and far from the dreaded bridezilla… but i’m afraid i’m getting close to a complete meltdown. it seems like nothing can ever just be “easy” with all this planning and i’m frustrated. i have two bridesmaids, who are my sisters, and my best friend is my maid of honor. since they are all different body shapes and have different comfort levels and have different budgets, i thought it was a great idea to let them each pick out whatever they wanted to wear with the only restriction that it be the same color- david’s bridal’s marine. in a completely odd turn of events, Maid/Matron of Honor ordered a dress that was the complete wrong color (hers was bright royal blue, my dresses are navy) and had she not seen another bridesmaid’s dress hanging up at my house, she never would have known. davids bridal ended up taking full blame for letting her order the wrong color since they had my color on file, and it was probably just a communication error, but it hurt my feelings that she didnt even know my wedding colors after we had all talked about it and a group email was sent so that i could make sure we were all on the same page… another one of my bridesmaids simply cannot be bothered to purchase her shoes, even though i have reminded her several, several times. they are shoes that i am having dyed for them even though she has known about it for weeks. i have to send them all at the same time to ensure they all end up the same color, and it could take up to three weeks. well, my wedding is in about three weeks… and i’m waiting on her… she also is the mother of one of my flower girls and has yet to buy the flower girl’s shoes and didnt even bother to buy the dress for her daughter, my other sister bought it for her. also, i had to travel 2.5 hours to pick up this maid’s dress from the bridal store, when she only lives half an hour away. she just simply cannot be bothered to do anything wedding related for herself. and trust me, it’s not for lack of time or money- she has an abundance of both. there was also fighting and bickering and drama among my bridesmaids over bridal showers/engagement parties and it put a LOT strain on us all and was completely unnecessary. (MOH planned a party, one Bridesmaid or Best Man thought it was a tacky idea and decided she was going to throw her own party and wanted Maid/Matron of Honor to split the guest list with her. things got really tense after that). one maid has made me cry telling me how stupid i am for wanting to do a few pictures after the ceremony as opposed to all of them before, and has made fun of my overall theme to my face, as well as lectured me because my white table cloths were going to clash with my ivory dress. i didnt even know that was something people worried about!! another told me that she refuses to carry a bouquet because she would look silly. another family member has even offered to pay for our catering as their gift to us (without consulting us on what we even wanted to be on the menu, then when we told them what we wanted to serve, we were told that this caterer doesnt even do that…) so we decided we can change our menu since they want to do this as a very(!!!!) generous and appreciated gift, so we cancel the plans we had made to organize friends and family to help us cater the wedding ourselves. well, fast forward to a few days ago when my fiance texts this person to touch base about the caterer and she informs us that she “hasnt talked to her yet” but “will call her soon”… um hello?? the wedding is less than 30 days away and you have told us that you have the caterer handled, but you havent even called her?!?! we have been thinking it was completely smooth sailing this whole time. talk about panic mode…
maybe i have gone full-tilt bridezilla, but i just wanna scream. why cant people just do what’s asked of them for ONE DAY, especially when i have been as accommodating as possible so far? i know that sounds horrible, but i would be willing to wear a spandex orange bodysuit and brown tutu with 6 inch stripper heels and stand up there with any one of these girls at their weddings if they asked me to. i guess what they say is true- sometimes we expect things from people because we would be willing to do that much for them. maybe i’m being selfish? i completely understand that my wedding is wayyyy more important to me than it is to them, but i guess i just wish they were more excited about it rather than viewing it as a chore. they all could have said no, but they didnt…
sorry for the vent session. the stress has finally gotten to me i think 🙁