- 3 years ago
Regular bee using my old anon account.
Like the title says, I really just want to complain to someone. I try to keep the opinions of my Mother-In-Law and SIL to myself because I don’t want to talk bad to Darling Husband about his family constantly, and the few times I complain to my own mom, she gets superrrrr defensive of me, and I want them to have a good relationship.
(before anyone asks, Darling Husband stands up for me when ANYTHING is said in front of him, and is quick to call if I mention something to him, which is one of the reasons I stopped telling him, I hate the drama of it all)
So vent begins… my Mother-In-Law and SIL do not respect me as the #1 woman in DH’s life. Period. While he is the youngest of 2 children, we are 29 years old, financially independent, and can do whatever we want, without their permission. I have two degrees and an amazing career, which I am EXTREMELY proud of, and yes, I make more than my engineer husband, but NOOO… Mother-In-Law thinks it is “degrading” to Darling Husband that I have such a fantastic job, and SHE would prefer if I stayed home, especially since I “barely” know how to cook, and am “poisoning” Darling Husband with our fast food take out. I really want to scream. Last time I checked, my Darling Husband was physically capable of A. cooking, and B. putting his own food into his own mouth.
We built a house last year, and Mother-In-Law and SIL were constantly cutting down my choices, and saying how I was choosing my own style over what Darling Husband liked, and MIL hopes the rest of our relationship isnt Darling Husband just giving into what I like. *rolls eyes*. SIL is just as bad, trying to tell me what Darling Husband would prefer more and how I completely disregard DH’s style…um thanks but no thanks, we dated for 8 years, been married for 2, and actually communicate, ill get his opinion from him thank you. (For the record, Darling Husband and I were picking things they personally did not like)
So now here is the straw that is breaking the camel’s back… Darling Husband and I are having a baby (tried for 8 months but I have a few health issues so it took a while, this is only important because it was before we knew SIL was pregnant). Well… while we wanted to keep this to ourselves because I don’t need MIL’s judgement and stress… she asked and we told her we were trying when she noticed I wasn’t drinking at a family member’s wedding. I thought she would be excited for us, because I would consider leaving my career for this…. but boy was I wrong. I was told I CANNOT have a baby “this year” because SIL JUST had a baby last month and Future Mother-In-Law has not had enough time to bond with her first grandchild… and I quote “I want ‘SIL’s child’ to pick my grandmother nickname when she starts talking, so this would be cutting it too close”…. ARE YOU KIDDING ME. So then she tells SIL, to which she starts CRYING at this wedding because we “cannot just be happy for her and we don’t understand how much she struggled to have this baby”… uhh okay. SIL did struggle, and my heart breaks for her, but that doesn’t mean I can’t have a child too. So then today… the cause for the rant… SIL and Mother-In-Law text me in a group text all of the names SIL would like to reserve for her future chidren, which we are not allowed to use. ONE of which is my DH’s name. What the actual F***.
I just dont understand why they think its appropriate to have an opinion on when we choose to have a baby and what we name it. Im tired of how they treat me (and Darling Husband for that matter), like we are children incapable of making our own decisions… and just want the comments to stop. I honestly feel like an intruder on “their” family in their eyes.
Okay, rant over.