(Closed) “I just want you to live your life!” – vent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1133 posts
Bumble bee

Not to this extreme, but my mom has mentioned that I’m too young to get married (because she knows me and my SO are planning on getting engaged) and I’m 24. She married my dad when she was 23!!! HELLO!!!? Lol she had me when she was 26. Hypocrite much? Regrets from getting married so “young” maybe? But I’m always like Mom, relax…we are grown up now I’m old enough to get married. She thinks I need to see what other fish are in the sea because I’ve only had 2 serious boyfriends with a tons of duds inbetween. 
I feel your pain girl hahaha…seems like your very very happy though so that’s the best way to prove her wrong and shut her up! hahah 

Post # 4
141 posts
Blushing bee

I would tell her that you are a grown woman and that you are entitled to make your own decisions. I  would also tell her that she is attempting to live vicariously through you, and that this type of pressure is not fair.

I would be really supportive about it though. It is obvious she has regrets, and that she doesn’t want you to have those also. Next time she tries to tell you that you should be doing something, ask her if it’s what she wants to do. More than likely, it either is something she wants to do, or is something she wanted to do. Either way, she should still do it –  I’d tell her age is no barrier.

Maybe once she starts living her life, she will stop trying to make you live yours the way she wants you to.

Post # 5
3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s hard for parents to let go. We’re still their little girls! My mom had a similar feelings I suppose when I was in college, my SO was studying abroad, and she didn’t want me to not meet other people, and not have fun. I had to explain it to her, just because SO is away, does not mean I am sitting by the phone waiting for him to call and I can’t hang out with both girls and guys that are friends, or new people I meet in class! I think she got it over time, but I know they’re just looking out for us. Hard to deal with sometimes, I know!

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