Post # 1
So me and my husband got married at a tiny place where you have quick wedding with like 5 members of my family there new years eve of 09. We did that because we were engaged anyway and my dad was deploying in march and i wanted him there you know (just in case). Well now we are having our big wedding same day but this year so that all of our family can come. My question is are there many of you out there who had the tiny wedding and are now having the big one?
Post # 3
We had a courthouse ceremony, just for legal purposes, but I wouldn’t even call it a wedding, as it was just me and him. I guess you could call it an elopement. He’s a diplomat and was starting a yearlong overseas assignment to the middle east, and we wanted it official before he left just… you know… in case. But only our immediate families know, and they live across the country and couldn’t come. We didn’t want our actual wedding celebration (this October) to be viewed as a vow-renewal, or anything less than a “real” wedding, so we’re keeping our courthouse ceremony on the downlow.
Post # 4
I know a lady who got married at the courthouse and is just having a reception this fall.
Post # 5
Also, a bunch of the Bees had a legal ceremony before their actual wedding celebration — like Jellyfish (military), or pretty much any Bee who’s marrying someone foreign (visa requirements). You’re definitely not alone!
Post # 6
Not yet, but we are considering it. I lost my job a month ago, and thus lost my health insurance. Applying for insurance on my own is taking far too long and is endlessly confusing, and we reached a point where we planned to get married at the courthouse just so I could share his insurance coverage. We even got the marriage license.
Our parents were disappointed that we wouldn’t be having a “real wedding,” even though we told them we would do that later. After much discussion, we told them we would wait to get married and have a bigger wedding next year.
But almost as soon as we told them that, I began to feel that I really don’t want the big wedding. My FH and I are very quiet people, and neither of us will feel comfortable being the center of attention at a big event. We will not read our vows for an audience, we will not have a first dance (FH probably won’t dance at all). I’m seriously considering just having a courthouse ceremony with our parents and having a big party at some later time.
Post # 7
Hey similarity twin, we just eloped (on Monday!) and are considering having a larger wedding next year. I know there are other bees who have done this 😉 I am just not sure if we are/ want to/ when we will. I am just not sure!
Post # 8
Well Im glad to know im not alone! A lot of people did it in my family, but everytime I talk to a photographer, gift registry people, etc. they are all kinds of confused. lol Just making sure my family wasnt crazy =P
Post # 9
I have friends who were military brides do this exact thing – good luck!! I’m sure it will be amazing to celebrate with everyone 🙂
Post # 10
@brandonismine09: Why do you need to mention it to your vendors at all? I agree, it only serves to cause confusion. And they don’t really need to know that you’re already married. It’s not like you’re deceiving them with something they need to know. I say, just skip that bit of information and carry on planning the wedding as usual!
Post # 11
Yep! We did it. Just the two of us and the justice of the peace. A few of our family members know, but other than that we’re keeping it hush hush. Honestly, in retrospect I wouldn’t have it any other way. There’s a kind of pressure that’s removed when you do it this way. And we’ve had more time to acclimate to being married. We’re just not “out” yet, and I can’t wait until we are!!!
Post # 12
We were married in a VERY small ceremony with just our immediate family at a restaurant in February because we wanted to start my FI’s Green Card Paperwork ASAP and had to get married to do it.
We are having a full ceremony and reception on September 25, once he has his Green Card. We’re positioning it as our “religious” ceremony because we didn’t do any of the traditions the first time around, but really we just want a chance to share our love and our commitment with everyone who is important in our lives.
Everyone coming to our wedding knows that we’re already “legally” married, but they’re still excited to celebrate with us!
To keep it simple, we just say that we got “married” in February but our “wedding” is in September. Everyone has been really great about it!