Post # 1
Hi ladies! The bee has yet to fail and so I am writing to get some opinions and hope my post will also be cathartic. I believe I am paranoid to the point of convincing myself tthat I am pregnant. Fiance and I are always cautious and every time we have sex, we use a condom in addition to my being on the pill. a few months ago, we switched my BC to progesterone only due to migraines. about a month and a half in, we had sex as usuual with a condom. We checked the condom afterwards as we usually do and all was fine. I got my period as scheduled that month but for some reason I convinced myself I needed to take a pregnancy test. It was negative ad I was fine for awhilep. With our busy work schedules, we haven’t had sex since that time about ten weeks ago. I continued onto my next pack of pills, but still took another pregnancy test, and again it was negative. When going to take out the trash at least 24 hrs later, I looked at the test again and saw the urine stain in the result window and a gray indent like line that I know was an evaporation line. I took another test to be sure, negative again. I got my period and yet I am still, weeks later paranoid that I am pregnant. Everyday I walk myself through: sex on BC with a condom, 2 periods, 4 negative tesrs and yet every twinge in my stomach or looking in the mirror and seeming like my boobs may have gotten a bit bigger, and I go into full panic mode. This is absolutely ridiculous and I know I sound crazy, but what is wrong with me and how do I make it stop?! Logic should be winning out, but perhaps I just need someone to beat me over the head with it? Sorry for the insanity ladies!
Post # 3
Sounds like you are subconsciously worried about your BCP’s effectiveness, but as long as you are taking your pill at the same time EVERY DAY, you are fine. Adding the condoms just ups the protection. You are almost certainly not pregnant.
To help come to terms with this underlying fear, maybe write down how you would manage (or what you would do) even if you did accidentally get pregnant. Perhaps seeing on paper that an unplanned pregnancy isn’t the end of the world would make the teeny tiny risk of getting pregnant each month not so scary.
Post # 4
Are you saying that you haven’t had sex in 10 weeks and have since had 2 normal periods and you are still worried you are pregnant? I can assure you that you are not. If you had gotten pregnant when you had sex 10 weeks ago, you would be 12 weeks pregnant, making you at the end of the first trimester and you would certainly know by now. It is just an irrational fear. If you really can’t let it go, I suggest talking with an obgyn and then maybe a counselor that can help you work through this fear.
Post # 5
@Paranoidbee: I’ve had similar fears, but not quite as extreme. I am on the pill and usually skip the condoms so worry about the one method failing.
Not sure how to reassure you… but since you use condoms (they’re over 90% effective when used correctly) AND the pill (99% effective when used correctly)… the odds of both failing are extremely slim. Add to that the fact that you have to be at the right point in your cycle, AND you haven’t been having much sex lately… and you get a recipe for NO BABIES lol.
I am quite paranoid but even I think this is a bit ridiculous.
I wonder if something else may be bothering you (or general stress) and you just found this to fixate on. I sometimes do that… I subconsciously pick something to obsess over even if it isn’t logical.
Post # 6
@travellingfool: how would having sex 10 weeks ago make her 12weeks pregnant?
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@bsbee: You conceive at ovulation which occurs (supposedly) 2 weeks into your cycle and when you miss your period 2 weeks later you are considered to be 4 weeks pregnant even though conception only occured 2 weeks before you missed your period. They base it off of your last mentrual period instead of off of conception.
Post # 8
Your new pill hormones could just be making you feel weird, and they could actually be increasing your breast size. You may also be gaining a bit of weight or retaining water from the pills as well. Please don’t stress about this. I highly suggest talking about what if with your Fiance. With my Fiance, our plan has changed a bit through our relationship, but when I worry like this I just have a little talk with him and feel much better.
Post # 9
@bsbee: Yes. What ScottishMrs said.
Post # 10
If you just switched your BC pill a few months ago that could be what you are experiencing. I went on a new BC two packs ago and I am still trying to get back to ‘normal.’
If you haven’t had sex in 10 weeks, have had two normals periods, and you use a condom plus BC, you are def not pregnant, and I don’t forsee that happening unless you have a really bad day where you’ve forgotten you’re pil la few days in a row and the condom broke.
Post # 11
@ScottishMrs: Thanks. srry i didnt understand how that went
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@bsbee: No problem. It can definitely be confusing :). And sorry I answered a question you directed at someone else.
Post # 13
I take my birth control every night before bed, no set time. And me and my SO have sex all the time un-protected and i am on the lowest hormone pill. I believe youll be ok! 🙂 Relax and let things happen naturally