(Closed) I keep getting the "oh that's pretty"

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As long as you love it that’s all that matters. I find it very odd and uncomfortable if someone were to make a fuss over my ring. “It’s pretty” is a compliment the last time I checked. I think you’re reading into this way too much.  After the initial “newness” of your engagement wears off, no one is going to care about your ring.

FWIW, I say it’s pretty to everyone about their ring, even if I hate it.  As a symbol, they’re all beautiful.

 

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I totally understand where you are coming from… i get that reaction with my ring all the time… and its not  a sincere “oh that’s pretty” i get a taken aback “oh… that’s pretty” but as simple and as small as my ring maybe, i love it so much and think Fiance hit a homerun with it… its delicate, simple, and classic just like me

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Like you said, with the halo trend, that’s probably what people expect to see.  The important thing is you got what YOU liked and you didn’t care about what was going on around you. 

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

When I was engaged before I had a round solitaire and I got “it’s pretty” compliments a lot.  I really took them as compliments.  It’s better than hearing “oh…that’s different!”  I knew I had picked something pretty “boring” so I didn’t expect people to gush over my ring.

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SweetieP:  what kind of reaction are you looking for?

i think the BEE creates this false sense of reality for real life when it comes to paying attention to details. here you post a ring and people ask “so what’s the carat/cut/clarity”? but in real life, no one cares nor will they ask. they just see something shiny and move on with their lives. 

so, don’t think there’s something wrong with your ring because no one wants to talk about what they specifically like or don’t like about your ring. just take the gesture for social kindness and move on.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Solitaires are beautiful, classic, and one of the most popular styles out there.  When someone sees your ring, they’ve probably already seen a million other rings like it.  It’s the style we associate with engagement rings.  I think you’re more likely to have gushing over styles like halos because they aren’t the “classic engagement ring”.  Just remember, it’s hard to go wrong with a solitaire.  It won’t look “dated” 10 years from now, it’s comfortable, practical, you can match it with any band, and you won’t have to worry about replacing dinky micropave stones.

Post # 54
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Casa de España

@SweetieP:  I have a round solitaire, and after reading lots of posts of little stones gone missing and bad quality halos, I prefer my round solitaire. It was the best decision that my Fiance could have done. Plus, solitaires are timeless. I don’t know if halos will be a trend 20 years from now, but I know that solitaires most definitely will be. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

@SweetieP:  I know exactly what you mean. I don’t know why people are being so snarky to you. You’re probably just voicing something alot of us might have felt, but have never expressed. When I got engaged with a (gorgeous) but plain solitaire, I got a lot of “nice” and “pretty”. I thought it warranted more than that but didn’t get it cause it wasn’t blinged out like so many other rings girls my age have. You think you’re ring is beautiful and you don’t quite understand why others don’t, damn it ! 🙂

 

Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@SweetieP : Im not really sure what you would want people to saydo. I have a halo and it’s also not a diamond center stone. It’s blue and the first thing people say is “is that a blue diamond?”  when I proudly say “no, it’s a natural blue topaz” they kind of pause and say one of the following

“oh, ok. well it’s really pretty! what a different choice for an engagement ring”

“oh… well WHY isn’t a DIAMOND?!”

“wow, it’s very pretty, is there any reason you didn’t want a diamond?”

“I thought engagement rings were supposed to be diamonds”

“well that’s an interesting choice…. nice.”

it’s all over the board.

The point is, WHO CARES. it’s your ring, not theirs. Who cares if they are disappointed? are you? if not, then be happy and leave it at that. Quit looking for approval from others.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee

@SweetieP:  The way I see it is that everyone’s ring is unique to them, and you can’t expect a single other person in this world to love your ring the way you do.  I see some Bees’ rings that I hate, but what does it matter?  I’m sure plenty of people hate mine.  Ya know?  You have to love it for you, not for anyone else’s approval.  That’s just IMO.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I too plan to get the untrendy solitaire, and with the even more untrendy yellow gold. I think the comments are because it’s so simple. When something lacks detail, it doesn’t give people a whole lot to say about it…

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My Fiance picked really worked hard at picking out my ring, and I absolutely love it especially for what it symbolizes. But there was a part of me that wished I’d get more oohs and aahs from the general public. One of the first people to see it was my Future Sister-In-Law, and her very first words out of her mouth were “oh, it’s a round…”

So I learned that not everyone is going to go gaga over your ring, but if you and your Fiance love it, then that’s all that matters.Smile

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

These posts confuse me.  

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