I keep thinking “this is it” until it isn’t.. weird that it’s fun? 😂

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Continue to enjoy the waiting period! I think that as long as both people are on the same page, it can be filled with fun anticipation. I loved the whole “never knowing when it’s going to happen” feeling. Several holidays came and went during my waiting period (the months after we had gone ring shopping) and with each one I thought for sure he would propose, but at the same time I knew it was a little earlier than our projected timeline. He ended up proposing on a completely random day and it was the best.

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper

WEL, all l can say is my hat is off to all of you who can take all this game playing and ‘teasing’ as fun . No way l would ever have wanted to be The Good Sport while he played with my feelings and pretended to propose . 

Post # 19
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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elderbee :  Seriously.  Not trying to start mess but it seems like OP and some of the other bees in agreement are trying to laugh off their true discomfort of the situation. It’s not exciting to hae your feelings toyed with like it’s a game. With all these “perfect” moments still not being the moment means he probably still isn’t ready to commit to it so it’s taking longer whether it’s extravagant or a regular day.

Post # 20
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1678 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I don’t mind not knowing… and have agreed not to snoop, but the idea of having somebody intentionally faking me out is not fun to me… neither are months of needless waiting.

That said, OP sounds genuine in her enjoyment of this phase. Hopefully he surprises her for real soon!!

Post # 21
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5128 posts
Bee Keeper

Masochism has its fans. 

Post # 22
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70 posts
Worker bee

I really enjoy this thread xD

Post # 23
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834 posts
Busy bee

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sunburn :  possibly my most favourite comment on these boards ever 😂

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

Yeah no thanks. Sounds like the beginnings of a book on, how to cultivate resentment and frustration in a relationship, plus bonus chapters on breaking trust and how to gaslight your girlfriend. 🙄 proposing isn’t a game, it’s not funny, and men are dicks who drag it out for no reason. Period. The forcing it to be a suprise angle needs to get crushed to smitherenes in 2018. If you need it to be that much of a suprise to be happy with it than you are marrying the wrong person. 

Post # 26
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910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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wcky711 :  Any news??? 🙂

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