Post # 16
I actually meant to respond to this when you posted it, but this has killed me 🤣🤣 That is SO me right now. Do you think he did it on purpose? Hysterical!
There was a time a few months back when when I went to visit boyfriend that reminds me of this! He took me to this gorgeous scenic lookout way up on top of a mountain and was being extra sweet and lovey. He told me before we got in the truck to go that it was a “special trip” which got me all fired up. So we get to the top – the highest point in the whole state – and he asks if I want to go down this beautiful little walking trail with pine trees all around and the most amazing views. Of course this just makes me more suspicious and I say, “Absolutely!”
I kid you not – I couldn’t even make this up if I tried – halfway down the trail he paused and said that he had something in his shoe. So he GETS DOWN ON ONE KNEE and… takes his shoe off and bangs it against his hand bahaha. Of course my heart had stopped and when I saw him do that I just cracked up. So we kept walking and a few steps later he stops again and says, “Hmm I must not have gotten it.” He did the whole one-knee then shoe-banging again and I lost it all over again. Then, to my surprise, at the end of this trail is a three story structure that has railings on all four sides so that you can look out at the mountains. Now I’m thinking this is for sure going to be it. We took some pictures and then he came up beside me and put his arm around me. Heart stops again. I looked up at him and must have looked exactly how I felt because he said, “How come you keep you keep looking at me so funny?” Hahaha I almost peed my pants. And of course he was totally blissfully ignorant. Turns out he is just really sweet and wanted to take me somewhere pretty. I didn’t tell him what was going through my head until a couple months later. Of course he loved it and was so glad that, even unintentionally, he made me sweat it for a few minutes.
Post # 17
Continue to enjoy the waiting period! I think that as long as both people are on the same page, it can be filled with fun anticipation. I loved the whole “never knowing when it’s going to happen” feeling. Several holidays came and went during my waiting period (the months after we had gone ring shopping) and with each one I thought for sure he would propose, but at the same time I knew it was a little earlier than our projected timeline. He ended up proposing on a completely random day and it was the best.
Post # 18
WEL, all l can say is my hat is off to all of you who can take all this game playing and ‘teasing’ as fun . No way l would ever have wanted to be The Good Sport while he played with my feelings and pretended to propose .
Post # 19
Seriously. Not trying to start mess but it seems like OP and some of the other bees in agreement are trying to laugh off their true discomfort of the situation. It’s not exciting to hae your feelings toyed with like it’s a game. With all these “perfect” moments still not being the moment means he probably still isn’t ready to commit to it so it’s taking longer whether it’s extravagant or a regular day.
Post # 20
I don’t mind not knowing… and have agreed not to snoop, but the idea of having somebody intentionally faking me out is not fun to me… neither are months of needless waiting.
That said, OP sounds genuine in her enjoyment of this phase. Hopefully he surprises her for real soon!!
Post # 22
I really enjoy this thread xD
Post # 23
possibly my most favourite comment on these boards ever 😂
Post # 25
Yeah no thanks. Sounds like the beginnings of a book on, how to cultivate resentment and frustration in a relationship, plus bonus chapters on breaking trust and how to gaslight your girlfriend. 🙄 proposing isn’t a game, it’s not funny, and men are dicks who drag it out for no reason. Period. The forcing it to be a suprise angle needs to get crushed to smitherenes in 2018. If you need it to be that much of a suprise to be happy with it than you are marrying the wrong person.