(Closed) I kind of dislike my wedding gown//lost wedding stuff

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

OMG! I’m so sorry. I would be upset, too. 

Your wedding will still be wonderful, and I’m glad you found another great dress, but it’s totally reasonable that you’re upset about losing the other things. I’m sorry you had to deal with that on top of the stress of health issues, major travel, and moving to another country.

Hugs.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Well, at least you didn’t lose the dog. Out of everything, he (she) is the most important, in my view.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

 

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tyene :  This was really sad to read. I’m sorry for what happened to you and I hope they find your bag, but even if they don’t, you’ll still look beautiful in your new dress and veil.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I don’t understand your train of thought, really.  I stand by what I said, and believe it is a supportive comment, to put things into perspective.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper

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claroquesi :  

FWIW I didn’t see your comment as non supportive at all, more like philosophical  . I guess OP is much more upset than her post seems.

So sorry OP, the loss of the ring sounds the worst part to me , so awful when  you probably  normally  don’t have it off your finger !

I hope – and  its perhaps just  conceivable  – that the thief gets an attack of  conscience when they realise what  they have stolen.. Wouldn’t that  be be great …

Post # 10
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Helper bee

You sound like a piece of work OP – how rude you are to people trying to support you!

You lost stuff albeit some sentimental items but you were making a journey of choice and quite frankly should have been a bit more careful! Why didn’t you wear your engagement ring and chain to keep it safe??  

You absolutely should spare a thought for the many hundreds of people who have to flee their homes every day, leaving not just their possessions but often their loved ones too!

Stop wallowing and being so entitled!

Ever heard of karma??

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Oh bee. I agree with you, you have perspective as shown in your OP. It IS rude and unhelpful when people throw a worse scenario at you to dismiss and invalidate your feelings. I have had a REALLY rough six years, and my mum’s comment was “oh well, nobody died” (I was in a natural disaster where over 100 people were killed, there has been one death on my finances side of the family and one on mine – not her side obviously). I was (and still am) SO mad at her for saying that. 

I think you need to let yourself be sad and angry over your lost items, to be able to move forward with the new. Is there anything that usually makes you feel better? Try to see your new dress as a beautiful dress, and not project your feelings of loss onto it. I would be really sad if I lost those items too. I’m sorry this has happened, but keep your chin up, you’re going to look beautiful on your wedding day 😊

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

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minimgonk :  Ever heard of not being a jerk? I hope you never complain about anything, because there are people in the world who are starving to death, have no homes, or can’t get medicine for illnesses. So obviously that means nobody is ever allowed to be sad over anything else. Right, got it. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

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garnobella :  you need to learn to read love!  The OP said it is RUDE for someone to suggest she count her blessings and consider what she has rather than what she doesn’t!

Sure I complain about certain things but I also make damn sure that I look after my valuables.  She caused her own situation and instead of moving on she is being rude to people who are trying to offer support!!

At the end of the day it could have been a lot worse so no she isn’t entitled to get shitty with people offering sympathy!

 

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