- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
And to be fair, I lost my original wedding gown (custom made by a friend) in my carry on at the airport. I moved overseas with a lot og baggage and a dog, and after basically the whole day at the airport (they cancelled and rescheduled my day) with a scared and anxious dog, I must have put it somewhere. The dress wasn’t expensive at all, but it was what I wanted and had in mine. Very simple, natural waist, a-line ivory wedding gown made from beautiful fabrics and lined with silk. Long sleeve, kind of old fashioned.
Long story short they didn’t find my carry on at the terminal or general lost and found, and yes, we did file a police report but I frankly doubt that anything had been done. I called the police and am calling them still (the overall value of my carry on was pretty high), but I know the bag won’t be found.
I lost my engagement ring too, my other jewelry, clothes, my wedding planner, my wedding veil and shoes and a cake topper I made myself.
I ordered another wedding dress – I had to go cheap, it’s nice and it’s an original item from 40s and fits me well (which is difficult, my waist is usually size 6, my breasts size 10, so I have larger boobs and it’s difficult to fit them into regular clothing), like a glove. It has long sleeves, natural waist, it’s more or less sheath/aline and it’s not bad. But everytime I put it on I get a little blue and sad.
I really can’t believe I lost so many items dear to me or valuable to me and most likely someone simply stole them from me. I also look different than I wanted to and it’s hard to reconcile with it.
I am hoping that once I get other items like veil and headpiece (I ordered some oldschool wax flower 20s tiara this time) and wear the whole look I will feel different. My wedding is in 36 days and there is not any time nor money nor options for ordering another dress – I doubt I would another dress that looks better than the one I have.
I am sad though. We were in long distance relationship, moving to the US to get married is kind of a big deal, I have some health scares before my trip here and it generally been hard and I thought I simply ran out of bad luck before my wedding, but nope, I had to also lose my wedding items, my gorgeous engagement ring and my favorite summer clothing too.
My fiance is amazing, and it’s great to be able to be with each other etc. This part I cannot complain about – I know I’m marrying a wonderful person, my best friend etc etc etc. But I also feel like grieveng over items that I lost, even though they are just material things… But for me it’s different. There were some jewelry there that I simply cannot replace, not only my engagement ring, but also necklace from my grandmother or chain that my deceased grandfather wore and I was supposed to wear my cross on it during my wedding day (the cross also got lost). This is part of family history, and I think the fact that I generally had to leave so much behind and sacrifice so much makes it more difficult for me to swallow such loss, although rationally I know that we’re in good health, we’re together, we’re happy and we’re getting married and our marriage won’t be less real, valid or beautiful just because I do not love what I’m wearing on my wedding day.
I would appreciate any words of support.