(Closed) I kind of dislike my wedding gown//lost wedding stuff

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
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Sugar bee

tyene :  i still don’t understand how THAT bag wasn’t the MOST IMPORTANT bag you kept track of, espeically since you wound up sticking your purse in it. at that point, i would have never ever put that bag down anywhere (because would you ever just put your purse down in an airport? nope). sounds like you had a lot of luggage (maybe you should have shipped some of it instead of trying to juggle it all – and i have moved between countries before).

still doesn’t explain why you didn’t just wear your engagement ring.

Post # 34
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85 posts
Worker bee

ilovesophia :  I agree.  Why would you not wear engagement ring? 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

minimgonk :  omg, let it GO.

OP, I’m sorry this happened to you. It sort of sounds like this new dress is kind of representative of the loss of your bag. I don’t know what the solution is, though I would bet that when you have your hair and makeup done, wearing the veil and the shoes, the dress is going to be much more beautiful. Though I think if I were you, I would try shopping samples or off-the-rack dresses in the hopes that something you love more pops out. Your dress sure sounds lovely though. Any pics? I absolutely LOVE that era!

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s REALLY beautiful. So elegant. I absolutely love it! Make sure it’s fitted to every inch of you, that definitely helps. I agree, I wouldn’t buy something new. 

And I totally get all that. I’m so sorry that happened. 🙁

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

minimgonk :  who peed in your Cheerios this morning?

tyene :  you have amazing perspective. I’m sorry this happened to you. It sucks outloud.

Post # 41
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3576 posts
Sugar bee

God, you people act like you never had a momentary lapse because you were overwhelmed. Go get laid or something. You are way too wound up and taking it out on this woman for no reason. Seriously. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

tyene :  but why couldn’t you put down your dog? isn’t it on a leash?

i think people might have been a lot more sympathetic had you not lashed out another poster who was trying to provide you with support. even if you didn’t find it supportive, you could have just ignored it – instead you decided to respond rather caustically, and so people stopped feeling as sympathtic towards your situation.

i truly am sorry that you lost your bag. that really sucks. i lost an heirloom diamond ring while in greece two years ago (had been in my family for 4 generations), and i was super bummed. i was actually wearing the ring constantly, and it somehow disappeared (i think i accidentally slipped it off while drying my hands with a paper towel and threw it away). BUT, as sentimental as that jewelry was, it IS only jewelry. there ARE more important things to be grateful for – 6 months after losing that ring, my little brother was hit and killed by a drunk driver. he was 27. so yeah, i having some perspective IS important, and IS helpful once you actually allow it to be.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

zl27 :  I dont understand your comment.

Post # 45
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Worker bee

Wow. Jumping in with “it could always be worse!” IS an asshole move. The OP clearly knows that, and actually has a really measured perspective from the get-go in this post. She’s allowed to be sad about this.

And anyone who thinks they could never lose a bag while navigating extensive immigration screening at a large busy airport after a long international flight while taking care of a scared animal and carrying all of your earthly possessions? Is flat out delusional. LOL. Travel is stressful, moving is REALLY stressful, combine the two and it’s a clusterfuck waiting to happen.

OP–major change like what you’re going through is so hard even when everything goes right. You’re allowed to grieve the items you lost and the stress of building a life in a new place. Your new dress looks beautiful, and hopefully it will get easier to imagine moving forward as the other things you’ve bought arrive and start to complete the new picture of your wedding day. But it’s ok to take space to feel angry and frustrated too! Be nice to yourself, take whatever small indulgences seem appealing–moving is hard, and you deserve comfort and support.

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