(Closed) I kind of dislike my wedding gown//lost wedding stuff

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Helper bee

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somedaygroom :  we will have to agree to disagree then.  Being thankful for the positive things in life and not dwelling on negativities nor misfortune is a creed that I and everyone I know in real life adheres too.

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

God I hate “it could be worse” my DH had depression and his parents turned around and went “why are you depressed it could be worse you could have cancer”. I was like wtf does that have to do with anything! 

Im so sorry you lost your bag that’s really rubbish. I hope the accessories help your new dress feel more bridal. Losing a bag with really important stuff in is something I would completely do! I lost a box of important things when moving house. I don’t know how I did it im pretty sure I left it on the pavement while packing 😩. It can happen to anyone unfortunately. 

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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tyene :  I read your initial post feeling absolutely awful for you. And I agree that “it could have been so much worse” comments aren’t helpful, but even after PP explained that her words did in fact come with the intention of being supportive, why do you feel the need to continue to bash? Her intention wasn’t to make you feel shit, so accept that and move on.

How long ago did this happen? Have you claimed on insurance? I get that the sentimental things like jewellery and your one-off dress are irreplaceable, but if you’re entitled to anything at all for what you lost then it’s worth the claim.

Post # 49
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Honey bee

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minimgonk :  Google it.

Post # 50
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Honey bee

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tyene :  btw, I love your new dress. Are you Polish?

Post # 51
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Worker bee

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minimgonk :  And that’s fine, but being thankful for the positive things in your life doesn’t give you license or imperative to diminish someone else’s feelings.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee

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BubblesandCupcakes :  Same here- I didn’t read her post as “it could have been worse, so suck it up and count your blessings” at all, but rather “at least your situation isn’t as bad as it could have been”. Maybe a clumsy way to offer support in some people’s eyes but not worthy of the rude (IMO) response. 

Post # 54
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Wannabee

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tyene :  

Gosh you sound so nasty.  you need to learn some humility.  Everyone’s being supportive but your head is too much up your butt to realize. Good luck in life in the states cuz it’s gonna be rough 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That sucks. 

Hopefully you’ll see the silver lining soon and realize that you have an opportunity to choose everything all over again!

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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minimgonk :  Take the feedback you have been given about your “support” and move on.  Op is upset about losing her things and you are attacking her.  You are doing a great job at making yourself look like a nasty person.

Post # 58
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Helper bee

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mountaingoat84 :  where did I attack her?? I said she was rude to people supporting her that’s all.

Its only on this site that people think being positive and concentrating on what you do have rather than what you don’t have, is a bad or rude thing!!!

People in the real world ‘count their blessings’ and ‘always look on the bright side’ to quote Bing Crosby and Monty Python!! 

 

Post # 59
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Helper bee

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tyene :  I am really sorry this happened to you. I hope somehow you get your things back. Nevertheless, your new dress is lovely as well, it has a very vintage feeling. 

Honestly, it helps me sometimes thinking things could have been worse (I am sorry if some find it rude, but it does help some people), but I don’t spend much time thinking like that. Think your wedding is close and the experience in the airport will just be an old memory.

By The Way I am half Polish! 

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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mountaingoat84 :  She wasn’t attacking, but you are stirring. There is nothing wrong with trying to make positive from a negative situation. OP was rude to retaliate in the way that she did. It’s horrible that she lost some things along the way, but I’m glad she and her dog made it to America safely. I’m glad she found a beautiful replacement wedding dress. I hope she gets a gorgeous new engagement ring. I am sad that she lost some sentimental jewellery, but I’m still glad that she and her dog are okay. As ClaudiaKishi  said, perhaps not the best way to offer support, but nobody has been a dick to OP. This thread is a bitchy shit storm now, and for absolutely no valid reason.

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