Post # 1
So I pretty much love my life except for one thing. I really dont have any “close” friends. I have had an issue with girls since highschool. I was brought up to treat everyone the same. Im not better than you and your not better than me. I have my Maid/Matron of Honor who has been my friend for 7 years but our relationship took a weird turn when she started dating my Fiance best friend. Things are not the same and I dont think they ever will be. So my vent is basically I want new friends but have no idea where to find them without seeming desperate. Im 27 so where do I find new friends?
Post # 3
Do you work at a place where there are people your age?
Neighborhood get togethers?
Post # 4
I think there are probably a surprising number of women out there who share your same problem, like me…
It took me a while to realize that while I don’t necessarily have that BFF, I have a couple of girls (because some things guys just don’t get) that I’m close to…and over the years we have to make an effort to keep our friendship alive (we’ve not lived in the same state for like 5 years).
Believe in yourself!
Post # 5
Sorry you’re feeling this way.
How about making friends at the gym or try volunteering somewhere to meet people. I think its quite easy to lose touch as you get older.
Post # 6
I have moved 9 (yes, 9) times in 5 years. Unsurprisingly, it’s been hard to keep in touch/make friends as I go. I don’t have any close (or really any) friends here in NYC, and now that we are finally settled, I really am wishing I did. It’s so hard to meet people once you are out of school.
Post # 7
I’ve said for a long time that there should be online dating for friends.
It’s HARD to make friends as an adult. I work with 90% men, and most of the women are my mom’s age.
I meet people often, but it’s hard to make the jump from being the girl you chat with at the gym, to hanging out.
Post # 8
can you join any clubs? kickball leagues? use meetup.org. it’s hard, but you have to make an effort if you want to find friends. i don’t have a best friend other than fi, and i know how you feel, it can be kind of sad. but, i make every effort possible to meet new people and be friendly. best friends are like any other relationship — they come and go, and it can be hard and might take awhile to find the right person.
Post # 9
i know how you feel. Kind of lonely when your Fiance has a weekend away with the guys and you end up scrambling to find something to do so you dont feel sorry for yourself. Or just wanting to go have a drink with a girlfriend!
I have found that I have a hard time making friends with girls my own age. 20-something girls cannot seem to leave their SO’s for one night and have a good time. They are constantly texting or calling their men saying where are you? what are you doing? OR wanting to meet up with them at like 8:00… or polar opposite girls who want to go to clubs til 3 AM and I’m just not like that……
So I have a lot more fun with older girls!! My go-to girlfriend right now is actually older than my mother — she is 57. We go out and talk about our guys, talk about my wedding — have a few drinks and even dance sometimes at the bar! Maybe you could start looking for friends in a different age range!
Post # 10
I am in the same boat, you would think here in atlanta it would be easy to make friends. But I dont work with alot of people my age. and I work from home alot making it even harder. I wish I made more friends in college that I could still hang out with. I have a group of girl friends that we do things every 3-4 months or so, I just wish I had closer friends — you knowone that I could really confide in and do stuff with on a regular basis. oh and one that didnt invovle alot of drama or drinking till 3am chasing guys.
I wish I had a solution but I am in the situation.
Post # 11
@Miss Peach Tree: Aw! I’m in NYC! Let’s be friends!
Try meetup.com – great way to get in touch with people with simliar interests! Even then, I know it can be hard, but I think the best way to do it, is just to put yourself out there.
Post # 12
I just met a few really good girlfriends this summer doing boot camp in my neighborhood. It’s amazing how friendships can be formed when you’re all miserable!
Post # 13
I’m much like you. I don’t have many close friends. I don’t like to have women friends and Fiance isn’t really comfortable with me always hanging out with guys. My bridal party and I haven’t seen each other since late June, and I’m dying to get out and have a good time!
Post # 14
@jenandchris: Haha, thanks. I appreciate the offer!
But really, the bees are my only girlfriends at this point. Which makes me feel kind of awkward. Would telling people you met your friend online give you the same sheepish feeling that telling people you met your SO online seems to?
Post # 15
How about taking a class or two at a community college for fun? Most of my friends are from my college years and I make a conscious effort to do things with them and they always tend to invite new people to join each time. What happened with my ex was that I dropped all my friends and ended up alone when that turned sour.
Post # 16
So much good advice! Im glad I found this website I will try everything! I didnt realize there was other bee’s like me! 🙂