(Closed) I Knew This Was Going to Happen :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Helper bee

The forecast is always rain in Hawai – lush paradise doesn’t happen without a lot of it! It will likely be at night. If not it will be light and over with quickly. Might see a rainbow!

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

Why not do three shorter harvest style tables instead of the one long one?

Not much you can do about the rain, but the weather forcast can change in 4 days.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

I’m so sorry for all the last minute stress! Details aside, I just wanted to wish you the perfect day. As imperfect as the plans or weather may be, it will be PERFECT. You’ll be surrounded by people who love you and you’ll be committing to a life of love with the man you chose and who chose you. Try to focus on that and no matter what, your day will be beautiful. (Sounds kinda cheesy, but I swear it’s the truth. Lightning could’ve struck on my wedding day and it wouldn’t have changed the way I felt or the magic that day still makes me feel.) 

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper

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banana86:  Screw the weather, go play in the rain!!  It rained almost all day on my wedding day and although we did manage to stay dry for photos, some of them look amazing with brooding clouds in the distance.  Photos of bride and groom with umbrellas or just standing in the pouring rain are often beautiful and unique.  Look up some ideas and take advantage of what mother nature throws at you!

I wouldn’t worry too much about the tables either.  It won’t match your vision, but honestly I can’t see 24 people sitting at one long table feeling comfortable anyway – you can only talk to the people right beside you.  To me, circular tables are more relaxed/friendly in appearance.  Alternatively, what if you had the long table and then a small round one at one end for you and your husband?  Touching the big table, but a little seperate spot of your own.

Don’t worry, the day isn’t ruined.  Have your vent and then start browsing the web for kickass ideas.  Be excited!

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Just popping in to say, ignore the rain forecast for hawaii.  It rains everyday in hawaii.  Certain altitudes always have rain, and each island has a rainy side.  When it rains on the “dry parts,” the wind blows the rain away in like 2 minutes.  If you want to get out of the rain, you simply have to either wait 2 minutes, or drive to the other side of the island.  Unless there is a hurricane or something, you will be fine.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

That really sucks! But don’t let it ruin your big day. Rain suppose to be good luck anyways for weddings 🙂

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Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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jjbean:  I was also going to add, lots of cultures view rain as very lucky for a wedding day! 

I also like another poster’s suggestion that you could get some really cool photo ops if it does rain. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

1 rain on your wedding day is lucky. Some of the most romantic pics can be taken  the rain. Kissing under and umbrella ect.

2. I’m sure you can fix the tables and even if the  won’t just wait til theyve gone  and push them together. lol 

3. It pissed it down, no joke like floods, for days before and after my mates wedding but on her wedding day it was absolutely glorious sunny warm weather!

all you can do is make the best of what you get on the day, I’m sure you will have a brilliant day and don’t let the weather or tables stop you from enjoying your day!

 

Post # 26
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Newbee

Have you thought about hiring a babysitter for the 10 year old?  Maybe they could take him to dinner, movie or something else fun and he could join in after the dinner.  

Sending sunny wishes your way.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

If they could put 23 at your long tables, why can’t they fit 24? Usually, you can fit an even number at tables- it would seem that 23 would have left an empty space somewhere?

Post # 28
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Helper bee

I think it’s pretty rotten to make him sit at a table by himself. He’s a KID for crying out loud! He may be a last minute addition but it’s not like he invited himself. He’d probably rather not be there just as much as you’d rather he wasn’t going to be there. A couple of years from now you’re not going to remember where he sat or even that he was there but he sure will.

Edited to add: The more I think about this, the angrier I get. Here’s this 10 year old boy whose father decided to do something else on the weekend he was supposed to spend with his son. Dad changed his mind; that’s low and hurtful! 

Now he’s being taken to a wedding he probably doesn’t want to attend and you’re going to put him at a table, ALONE, behind a long table where every freakin’ one else is sitting WITH THEIR BACKS TO HIM.  And it’s not even just some guy’s wedding, it’s his uncle’s. Wow. He’s already feeling rejected by his father.  I don’t think there’s anything else you could possibly do to make him feel more unwelcome.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by WallNut.
  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by WallNut.
Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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WallNut:  Yeah… normally I’m in the ‘you can’t please everyone’ camp but this is different. If it was an adult who had somehow screwed you over and tacked themself on at the last minute, sure, they have to deal with the consequences of their actions. But this is a child who’s being tossed around like a football 🙁 I’m really really sorry that you’re having to deal with these things, but seating him alone with everyone’s backs to him is awful. It’s almost worse than leaving him in the hotel room. I think your only real options are:
a) talk to the venue people and insist on adding one more place for him next to his mum. Is there literally no more room for one more chair?? Or explore other options, like 2 long-ish tables?
b) tell his parents they need to cough up for a baby-sitter. I can’t believe his mum was going to leave a 10 year old in a hotel room. Ideally since his dad backed out HE should pay for the baby-sitter, but if he is too much of a douche for that, SOMEONE needs to step up for this child!I know it should not be your responsibility but if the mum is strapped for cash you could offer to help pay??

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Aww I’m sorry about the weather forcast, crossing my fingers that it changes!

Just remember, there are worse things than rain on your wedding day.  Like your plane crashing on your very first flight, a free ride when you’ve already paid, 10,000 spoons when all you need is a knife… 😉 😉

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