Post # 31
Work it out with the caterer/venue and tell them you only want a long table. Sometimes a different style of chair (leaner and more compact) can add more space. If you have to rent them so be it.
You are being so gracious and sweet about the 10 year old.
The rain? Sure- a total bummer. But it really is all in the attitude. Rain will make the room feel very cozy and intimate. It will give you and your guests a “we’re in this together” feeling which can be so special. I think rain is kind of romantic!
If you are tense and upset your guests will be too. You don’t want a wedding day like that. Smile and enjoy whatever the day brings. I’ve heard rain on your wedding day is good luck! 😀
Post # 32
You can chat to more people at round tables anyway. It’s disappointing when things don’t go the way you planned but there are always silver linings if you choose to see them. This day is going to be what YOU make it. You build your memories as you go – please don’t choose to build them bitter. It doesn’t always feel like it but it IS your choice. Get ready to kick your shoes off and dance in the rain! 🙂
Post # 33
I wouldn’t change my table arrangement if I were you, I would tell her to get a sitter. It is a child free wedding after all. It’s unfortunate that her dad bailed, but there are other options outside of expecting you to make an exception for her. What about the other guests who have kids? I wouldn’t even open that can of worms.
Post # 34
banana86: Upside: wedding photos with umbrellas and rain boots are f*cking adorable!
Post # 35
We had a blizzard for our wedding, 14 inches the day of – sucked. But got some awesome pictures, and it all worked out. Went to Tahiti, and it rained 8 of 10 days, but we made the most of it and it was nice not baking in the sun and being sticky the entire time. It all worked out, I was super bummed as well – but when it happened, it was okay. It’ll be fine! We were pleasantly surprised with the break in tropical rains, it will be great!
Post # 36
Sorry to hear this. Definitely push the venue on including another chair on the long table or look at a U shape as pp has suggested. If the 10yo is going to have to sit on his own, will that be in the same room as everyone? If so, I really wouldn’t do that. Not sure if it would be better if he could eat in a less formal room so he can play on his phone or what not.
As for rain – there is nothing you can do and you’re right, it happens to loads of people. One of my favourite wedding shots is of Darling Husband and me having confetti thrown at our beautiful wedding umbrella. Own it! Plus, we got married in April (so knew April showers were a probability) but all but one Saturday since has been cold and grey and actually, I’m glad it rained rather than just stayed grey as we could use the brollie and it added atmosphere.
Post # 37
Rain in Hawaii is no big deal. It will likely rain for a little bit then clear up each day. As for the wedding, I’m sorry. Hopefully it won’t rain all day. We didn’t get rain despite a forecast for it.
I’d talk to the venue about the table situation. There may be something else they can do, since it’s just one more person, not 10.
Any way that it works out, you need to just let it go. You will have a great day and I’m sure that it will be beautiful.