(Closed) i know a lot of you will not agree with me…

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think your parents have NO business whatso ever paying for FBIL’s tux.  That is kinda a bit much if you ask me.  Obvisouly they can spend their money how they want but wow, that is really generous. 

 

It would be nice if you could tell them to figure it out.  I think the Usher could probably get away without wearing a tux so that might save you some there.  But really, over 2 years and you just now realize you don’t have the money?

I think this is something that his parents should step up and help support.  I know this sounds bad but its his side of the family.  My husbands family didn’t contribute anything to the wedding but at least they figured out how to all get down there and stay in a hotel. 

Post # 4
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2634 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

FI and I are paying for our wedding completely on our own so we didn’t worry about all this stuff.

Post # 5
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4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nah, I won’t yell 🙂 I know everyone needs to vent sometimes, and seriously, it would bug me too!!!!!

Post # 6
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that even if they haven’t contributed financially, they still could have contributed in other ways. That being said, if they do have the means to contribute financially and haven’t, then that just isn’t right.  I’m not saying they should pay for the wedding or anything like that, but to not host the rehearsal dinner and contribute to that?  That seems weird to me, but I’m very traditional in that sense.

Post # 8
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593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ugh, same. We didn’t even get a wedding present (nor a card) from his mom. No offering to come help set up for the rehearsal dinner or cook something for it…NOTHING at all was ever offered and it is still kinda bothering me.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

And the tux thing is just ridiculous.  Your fam has zero responsibility on that one.  My parents would pick up the slack there too, because they are generous like that, but that doesn’t make it right.  You definately have  a right to be ticked about that part.  I hate when people take advantage of my parents (not that that is necessarily what the brother’s intentions are, but that’s how it ends up being b/c they are forking more money over).

Post # 10
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1580 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think your family should pay for the tuxes. I wouldn’t even ask. Honestly it is not your issue either. I’d let you fiance take the reins on figuring this one out.

I think for your benefit, you need to get over the money issue fast. You have one week left, so just try to forget about the stress of the money and enjoy it! good luck!

Post # 10
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

whatever…. if they have money and they haven’t helped out… I think thats really rude. I’d be pissed too. 

Post # 12
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, I’m shocked. No one is going to fight this thread when there have been dozens just like it and the OP gets attacked?

Well good ! OP, you are 200 percent (and I know percentages only go to 100!) RIGHT !

Post # 14
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2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No bad comments here Laughing VENT YOUR HEART OUT, lol

What does your FH think of the non $$ involvement of his parents?  I am so sorry you are experiecing this right now, as if there aren’t other things on your plate. I would do the exact same thing as you – as a last resort go to your parents but first try to have your FBIL figure out how to use some resources. Like you mentioned he did know about this far enough in advance. And yes, car problems tend to bite us in the ass when we least expect them to, argh!!!

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