(Closed) I know boys will be boys but sometimes their pranks hurt my feelings.

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww *hugs*  I completely feel for you.  Mr. Sunshine and I were engaged after just a few months as well.  Friends either made jokes, or didn’t take us seriously.  It really hurt my feelings.  We had a longer engagement (18 mos), and I feel like people are just starting to take our relationship seriously.  As much as it hurt, I never let on to anyone that it bothered me because I was afraid that it would get worse.

You know that you and Mr. A are the real deal, and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.  I am sorry I don’t have better advice! Feel free to PM me if you  need to chat 🙂

Post # 4
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10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Geez, I thought with age came maturity but I guess not. I’m sorry those guys are such douches. 🙁

Post # 5
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5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my advise is to kill them with sugar kindness – bake some brownies, muffins or cookies and send them in with Fiance, they will be remembering your name and for a good reason after that

otherwise ignore them, sometimes good guys do really dumb things

Post # 6
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think while they are maybe making a joke out of it, they might mean well in their own way, seems to my that being boys, this is how they are showing they like you and that your Fiance made a good choice in his SO. I say laugh it off and maybe even get that back by coming of with some fake RSVP cards that say something like “Dude with brown hair, would like to decline your invitation to your wedding to Mr. kickass”

Just fill in their names and hand them out LOL they may get the point that you don’t think it’s funny or they will think oh yeah I guess she can take a joke and we should just leave it be, because it’s not that funny anymore when she plays along.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I work with engineers as well and to them, teasing = flattery. THEY LIKE YOU! They have the mental capacity of Einstein but the social skills of a child from grade school. Most of the men I work with still consider saying “leggo my preggo” a compliment to me everytime I walk by…. I will never understand.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

This is one of a few threads in which you have been upset about other people’s opinions of your engagement making you feel insecure and just crappy in general.

If you dust yourself off and keep smiling, people won’t have any choice but to realize there is no stopping the Happy Express. Laugh with them, when they put you down answer with a smile. Are you happy? Yes? Great! Then stop focusing on all the morons and let yourself enjoy your life please! You have so many wonderful things happening, it’s really disheartening to see you getting bogged down by idiots.

I realize that not caring about what others think of you is easier said than done, but if you adopt that attitude daily, eventually it becomes a way of life. I care what my close friends, husband, daughter and family think of me. Everyone else can go pound sand.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Awww 🙁 You have every right to be hurt, but I truly think they mean nothing by it. And as firsttimemom said, I think the teasing means that they like you (and think you’re cool enough to “take a joke”…awesome trait to have in the minds of men).

Post # 11
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1961 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry you have to deal with that.  It is horrible that they took that to facebook now too.  Maybe you should do what a PP said about killing them with kindness.  Maybe you could make them all nice little thank you notes.  You may be able to turn the tide and make this just an inside joke between you and his coworkers.  

Post # 13
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1961 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you asked him to delete the posts off of his facebook?  Hopefully if it is upsetting you this much he will be willing to do that.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

What I would do is drop off a pizza with “From First Name, “Whats My last name”.

Beat them at their own game.

They don’t mean it to be mean to you. Its a jab at your Fiance, for good or bad.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Mmm yeah I went back and re-read about what your Fiance said about them knowing making it worse.  I hope you are able to find a way to tap into their sense of humor so that you are the one making the jokes and not them.  

I agree with what 

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Sunshine1810 said about you knowing that the two of you are the real deal and that’s all that matters.  I hope this doesn’t escalate for you, but if it does I hope we can make you feel better.

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