(Closed) I know every baby is different, but…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@kerensa:  In my personal experience, I’d say 10-12 weeks. My son’s birth was very difficult and I needed at LEAST two full months to heal afterwards. But I also know women who were basically back to business as usual within 4 weeks. So it really depends!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It *really* depends, on how the birth went, if it was a c-section, etc. The standard 6 weeks after is great for some people while others need more healing time. I also wouldn’t necessarily feel comfortable bringing a small baby to weddings where there would be a lot of people (and germs), although I’d appreciate being invited along with baby.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’d be ok taking him now (3 weeks) if I could bring him with me to the actual wedding. We might leave earlier than we nrmally would. If I had to leave him with a babysitter? Probably 8-10 weeks…

For the record, I had a vaginal birth – I’m sure my answer would be different if I had a c-section.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t have a 3 hour drive, but I had a C-section and had no problem bringing a 2.5 month old to a wedding, and probably would have happily brought her earlier. I was taking my little ones to church (where there are about as many people as a wedding, perhaps more) from when they were 3-4 weeks old.

I remember I felt pretty good at that wedding. So I probably would have done the 3 hour drive at about 6-8 weeks. (My husband would come – I wouldn’t do it without help). A 3 hour morning drive (probably 4 hour counting baby stops!), then a wedding, then stay overnight before driving back, isn’t too bad.

That’s assuming the baby could come. If not, then no chance up until breastfeeding stopped (11 months). Getting an overnight sitter was not an option due to breastfeeding, and the general fussiness of newborns.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My son is almost 4 weeks old and has already been to two weddings. They were both local, so no long drive needed, so that might factor in. But honestly, my guy did fine at both, I just popped him in the k’tan sling and he was fine.

Three months old? Shoot, put that baby in the Ergo or Baby Bjorn- they will probably have a ball!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My son went to a wedding four hours away when he was three weeks old–and I had a C-section.  They are a lot more portable at that age than they will be when they are older.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It totally depends on both mom and baby.  There’s also the germ factor: some people just aren’t comfortable with that.

Some babies hate the car or their car seat.  When she was that young, my niece (basically until she was about 5-6 months) would scream/cry for the entire car ride.  It didn’t matter how many times you stopped or if you were sitting in the back with her.  My sister thinks it was her car seat.  In any case, they didn’t make any drives like that after experiencing a 1 hour drive that involved multiple stops and a very VERY upset little baby. 

So…even if mom feels up to it, baby might not.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I would- but after both of my babies I was back to working within three days, not that I recommend it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a C-section and flew on a plane to my sister’s wedding at 3 weeks.  My doctor didn’t feel the germs were such a big deal because I was breastfeeding, and kept her well covered.  She was great!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a normal delivery and I attended my SIL’s wedding 2 weeks later. I’m 5’4 140 lbs., I had a 9.5 Lbs baby and was fully recovered within 3 weeks.  

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think 6 weeks is the turning point for a lot of babies/parents, especially if they’re first-timers.  If it’s a second (or third, etc…) child, probably less time.  I think our second child was 2 weeks old when we all drove a few hours for a weekend away.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

My baby got stuck and I had to have an emergency c-section! It took me a full 2 weeks to be able to get out of the hospital. So yeah… depends on how the birthing process goes and how the baby reacts to car rides.

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