- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 1/2 years, most of which we have lived together. We are “practically married” living together, joint accounts/credit cards, shared holidays with our families. He asked my dad’s permission 19 months ago, and he told me about it. We were shopping a few months and were looking at rings together and it was such a great deal that we bought the ring together. He doesn’t like talking about getting married because it is supposed to be a surprise, yet he has included me or told me those big details.. How do I be patient waiting when I know he has it (I was patient before thinking we didnt have the money for the ring) but I am not sure what he is waiting for now. I am also helping plan my best friends wedding so wedding talk is bound to come up, and every time I say anything (even about her wedding) he says that is all that I talk about (and he has never been one for discussing weddings, even before we knew we wanted to marry each other). I am trying not to pressure him and allow him to do it at his own time, but I also feel like the idea of getting married, the time of the year, destination or not, etc.. are details that most couples discuss before they are engaged. I have also always wanted my wedding to be at the beautiful resort and have told him that I don’t care about an elaborate wedding (we could go to a courthouse if he preferred), its not about the ring, I just look forward to being his wife. I want to start our futures together.. What do I do? Is this normal that he doesnt want to talk about being married?