(Closed) I know, I know, yet another FMIL rant.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

May I very respectfully ask why you would let your Future Mother-In-Law decide this for you rather then saying “No no, thanks for the input, but this is where I want it !”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would be annoyed too.  I say take the family friend’s offer because it seems the most convenient! (contrary to what your Future In-Laws seem to think…)  It is a bit ridiculous to have to spend $200 on a hotel room when you can have more space and still be close for the limo pick-up at the family friend’s house – even if you are not the one paying!  It is not up to your Future Mother-In-Law to decide where you get ready on your wedding day, IMO.  Hope it works out for you! 

Post # 5
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581 posts
Busy bee

Your last paragraph will save you from future “help.”  Go with the friend’s offer and tell Future Mother-In-Law that you’ve got it covered.  Best wishes for a beautiful wedding.

Post # 6
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I second Beeloved’s comment. I have in-laws who attempt to overstep their boundaries, so I understand how easy it is to give in when they push too hard. That said, you need to be firm or they will forever feel as though they can run you and future hubby’s lives. 

If they offered to pay for wedding stuff, that’s awesome, but imagine yourself as a parent. If you wanted to help your child and his or her love, would you expect that you would get to plan everything? That’s just nuts.

Have your hubby talk to them about wedding stuff that absolutely needs to be discussed. I wouldn’t answer if they call. 🙂

Post # 8
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

They are redonk. Go ahead and proceed with your plans as they do not affect the in laws!

Post # 9
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@awakemysoul: But this is the morning of your wedding day. YOUR morning and YOUR wedding day !

I have (sort of) the same type of in-laws and I’d be damned if I would let even my Fiance tell me where I can or can not get ready the morning of my wedding.

Are you sure you can’t talk to FI? So what if you ruffle your in-law’s feathers? This is not a HUGE deal. It’s nothing to disown you (and FI) over, but it’s important to you !

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@awakemysoul: Good idea ! keep everything under wraps from now on. I’m not sure, when do you get married? Do you have long to go ? May your day be blessed and wonderful when it comes. All this stress will melt away ! (I hope !)

Post # 12
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Who cares if they don’t approve? You’re marrying him, not his parents.  It is definitely not a package deal.

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