- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
if they’ve cheaped out, just write one card. they’re work friends, so should be fine.
The fact is, no one is obligated to give you a gift, and complaining about the price of a GIFT, as well as going on about how much money someone does or does not have, is horribly rude.
I think you should be gracious (and grateful!) and send each person their own thank you note.
@redherring: Be a big girl and write three thank you notes.
Speaking as a professor – just because we make make more money, it does not necessarily mean we have more to spend. Do you know your professor’s expenses? I for one run a private animal sanctuary where it costs me $400/mo just in food for the animals alone. Add in the cost of vet bills, and you get the picture. I sure the students whose weddings I attended were shocked by my standard $50 gift.
I try not to judge people’s financial standings. You never know all about people’s financial burdens. Just because they don’t talk about them doesn’t mean they don’t exist – mortgages, monthly utlities, child support, alimony, past taxes, student loans, paying for a sick parent, medical expenses, car lease, business ventures, etc. These things cannot always be avoided. Be thankful, throw the three thank you cards in the mailbox, and move on from the situation. Congrats on your wedding.
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