(Closed) I know I’m crazy… but please tell me I’m not alone!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think this is a very common occurance! Women feel like they get over shadowed or possibly upshowed or even copied when friends/family choose dates very close! You are normal!

Just remember nothing can compare to your day πŸ™‚

Post # 5
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No matter what, your day is your day and it will be special and unique.  But, do you really think one of your girlfriends would book the same venue as you in that close of a time span?  I can’t imagine that happening…but maybe that’s just me.

Post # 6
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Let’s suppose the worst, and someone happens to pick the same style and venue as you. Just think of it as an opportunity to learn from their mistakes, a trial run for your wedding!

You are not crazy, I think alot of people would feel the same way.

Post # 7
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I say if it happens just kick a bitch.  No but seriously, I highly doubt that will happen.  Most people don’t WANT to copy someone else.  I’m close enough to mine now that no one is going to plan my wedding before me, but I secretly am hoping that no one else gets engaged before I get married. Embarassed

Post # 8
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Hmm. Sort of! A friend of mine got married last October and she did a similar theme as mine (I had been engaged for 1.5 years at that point and we talked about it), so I do feel a little pressure to change my ideas as a result.

Luckily, not the same colors, dress, area or other large components, but I understand where you’re coming from.

Post # 10
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Me!  A good friend of mine who had been engaged and un-engaged a few times this past year with the same guy, became re-engaged a few months after me and is planning her wedding 2 weeks before mine. She liked my ideas on pinterest and asked if I wasn’t using anything so she could… Um. Sorry, I’m using ALL my ideas! (I said this politely)

While our wedding ceremonies are both outside in very picturesque places (mine is at a winery, hers a state park) I know our receptions will be different as mine is vintage garden with pinks, champagnes, and ivorys; and hers is black and gold (for the Iowa Hawkeyes I believe?) So I don’t think I have too much to worry about.

But the teeny bridezilla in me I need to squash is wanting to make SURE that my wedding is better even though I wish all the best for her!

Same goes for a girl I know only through work people who chose the same day as me, so unfortunely my boss and his wife, and another girl from work are going to be attending her wedding instead of mine. πŸ™ It happens, the wedding will go on, and I’m still going to try and make mine the best. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The only friend I have that is in a serious relationship is having a VERY different wedding than I am. 

I do have anxiety about copying my sister. I am shying away from a lot of ideas because she had them.

I also have anxiety at every wedding that we go to that they’ll have our first dance song. I have had it picked out for a LONG time now and I wouldn’t want people to think we copied anyone if they happened to have the same song. Thankfully none of the weddings we went to had it, although they all had songs in the same genre. And we don’t have any weddings to go to this year.

Post # 14
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The only advice I can give is to not share details with anyone and let it be a surprise at your wedding.  If nobody knows your ideas, they can’t steal them.

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