I know I'm overreacting – venting

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

tduck1 :  Maybe nothing has been mentioned because there are plans for a surprise for your 50th! 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Are you upset that they didn’t lump your birthday into the event to celebrate MIL’s and BIL’s?   They might just have thought since it is a 50th you would want to do your own thing rather than a joint celebration with 2 others, from some perspectives that would make it less special. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

tduck1 :  It’s problary a surprize party for you and they have to throw you off. I think it’s a genius way to get you there. You will be dressed up, the cars in the parking you will most likey recognize, so you will think the party is for them and it’s really for you. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Its good you recognize you overreacted, but I’d do the same thing and I know my husband would wonder why I was upset too, lol. Its a normal reaction. 

I didn’t immediately jump to the thought that they are throwing a surprise party for you, but it would sort of make sense. I wouldn’t get hung up on that idea though so you aren’t disappointed if a surprise party for you doesn’t happen. 

I also second zzar45 :  if you are upset they didn’t include your birthday in with the other two since they are so close? If those aren’t milestone birthdays they could very well just assume you are wanting to do something big for your 50th and don’t want to take away from that by sharing a party. Orrrrrrr of course a surprise could be planned too.  

Post # 8
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394 posts
Helper bee

tduck1 :  why do people think this is an overreaction? Wtf? My mom would never exclude someone. Why is she excluding you 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

tduck1 :  Sorry bee. My family and my husband’s family all have spring/summer birthdays. It’s months of constant running around for everyone’s party. My birthday is in the fall and is usually forgotten by all apart from my parents and my husband as it tends to get overshadowed by fall holidays. I gave up on expecting a party long before I got married. Lol. My SIL thinks it’s sad that I don’t have parties but I’m so used to low-key birthdays that it doesn’t bother me at all.

Buy yourself something nice and don’t take it personally. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

tduck1 :  Buy yourself something nice & try not to take it personally. I do think it’s a weird & messed up that she’s excluding you but there has to be a reason. It very well could be a surprise and that’s why she didn’t put your name on the birthday celebration email – but who knows though! 

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