(Closed) I KNOW I'm overreacting..

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1186 posts
Bumble bee

@fr0stie:  It’s totally different to see a picture of you in a dress, and see you in person in that dress. Don’t worry!

Post # 4
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I think there are a few questions here:

1) did your Maid/Matron of Honor know you didn’t want anyone to see it?

2) how big or small is your wedding going to be?

i’d be annoyed but as PP said, it will be different seeing you in the picture than when you’re all dolled up and glowing from your wedding. And on that day, I can guarantee this whole situation will be the LAST thing on your mind. 

Post # 5
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Definately drama queen, as the PP said a picture is completely different than seeing in person.  

Post # 6
4989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@fr0stie:   Does Maid/Matron of Honor know you want the dress to be a surprise?  If so, I don’t blame you one bit for being upset.   

Post # 7
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would be very upset as well. If I were a maid of honor/bridesmaid and had a picture, I would assume I shouldn’t be showing anyone pictures of the bride in their wedding dress.

Post # 8
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Is it annoying that a few other people saw pics of you in the dress? Yeah, I’ll give you that much.

Is it worth getting worked up about? No. You’re planning your wedding, and there will be so many other headaches that this will seem silly.

You’ll be happier and calmer if you stop sweating the small stuff.

Post # 9
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@fr0stie:  Just tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that you don’t want anyone else to see and hope that she respects your decision from here on out. I see your wedding date says 2015….if this is the case, people who have seen it, will forget all about it by than and you will still have your TADA moment 😀 

Post # 11
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh I would feel annoyed.  Agreed that in the big scheme of things this is minor and nothing to lose sleep over but I don’t think you are being a drama queen.  Perhaps tell your Maid/Matron of Honor in a nonchalant, ‘joking’ way that you would like to keep people guessing what your wedding dress looks like.  I too am keeping my dress a surprise until the big day, only my mom has seen it as she was the one who came dress shopping with me.  I get you.  It’s not a big deal per se but keeping it a surprise for everyone just makes me feel all giddy inside, lol. 😉

Post # 12
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I got annoyed with my mom after she showed my first dress to a ton of people. I ended up changing my mind about that dress anyway and getting another, which I told her do not show anyone!!!! So yah, I understand you’re annoyed. Luckily it’s only two people, and you can cut it off now by telling your Maid/Matron of Honor to stop showing the pics please. 

Post # 13
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

i was the same way– the ONLY person who saw me in my dress/ even saw a photo of what it looked like was my mom. i wanted to have that “holy shit its the bride” moment from everyone so my dress was in lockdown from the 1st moment.

looking back, i know that the moment would be there regardless because of the natural glow/ high you get on your big day, combined with makeup, hair, jewels, flowers, etc.

so don’t lose sleep over it, but clearly tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that no one is to see the dress!!

Post # 14
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I never let people take my picture for this very reason, lol.

I would be annoyed too but the “final product” of you in your dress with your hair and make-up done will be totally different than the picture! Don’t worry.

Post # 15
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@fr0stie:  Married Bee……who would have been really upset. I sympathise. Nobody saw my dress except my Mum until the day. I loved that and would have been really uspet if someone had take it away from me. Grand scheme. No, of course it dosent matter, but on a personal level. It sucks.

Post # 16
12005 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@fr0stie:  I would be annoyed.  I’ve shown a few people my dress pictures and sent it to my BM’s and my mom.  If I found out they were sharing it, I’d be upset.  I’ve realized that I want to STOP showing people so there is some surprise.

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