(Closed) I know it's not a race… (Long Rant/Vent)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

From the information you gave I still don’t know that it’s possible to say that statement was meant about you or meant to be rude to you. It may be that the brother and his gf have been getting pressure about get married and so they wanted to just avoid the subject, or their friends have been getting married, etc etc etc. Really it sounds like it speaks more to their thoughts on their own relationship then their thoughts on yours.  Maybe it WAS about you, but getting upset over it at this point when there are bigger issues won’t help anything. 

Post # 4
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Some people validate their choices, wants, decisions, etc., by attempting to invalidate those of others. They’re trying to make themselves feel better about not getting married by making your want to get married look desperate, or pathetic. I wouldn’t take it personally, just roll your eyes  at teinsecurity, and don’t give it another thought. What they said was probably aimed at you, but because, again, they get some kind of validation from it.

I don’t have to deal with this, so I can’t give you horror stories, but desperate people seeking validation are everywhere.

Post # 6
699 posts
Busy bee

@Cornmuffin09:  wow, your Bf’s mother shouldn’t of said that, at all, what a selfish thing to say. And for me, i wouldn’t wear another females dress, i think it brings bad luck (no ffense) i woulddo the right n’t put it to a race, you need to decide on your own and do the right thing for both of you. i’m sorry your Future Brother-In-Law is being that way, i hope your ok

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