- 4 years ago
The silliest and then best thing happened!
Normally, I’m the one bringing up rings and marriage- “What kind of cake would you want?” “DJ, Ipod, or a live band?” “Can we marry in a forest setting?” “Look at this gorgeous ring!” Etc. My SO doesn’t mind, and actually finds it pretty cute, but there was a while there where I was getting a little too pushy. I would drag him into jewelry stores, show him pictures online, ask him “When” pretty often. He never complained, but it really wasn’t going anywhere. Then, he told me that he planned to propose “within the next 2 years.” I found that both exciting and also mildly heartbreaking (2 years is a long time! I want to be engaged nowww). I got a promotion at work shortly after that, and he’s been traveling a lot more often for his job, so I stopped having the time to be pushy. Aside from the occassional “So, 2 years?” tease, the entire ball kind of stopped rolling for me.
Well, a few weeks ago I was telling my SO that I had something planned that I wanted to do for him after we got engaged. A kind of “return proposal.” I didn’t tell him the plan, but I did tell him that it was kind of time sensitive and waiting 2 years would be difficult. (I was mostly just teasing, but the big gift I wanted for him was on sale and I bought it to hide at work. 2 years is a long time, sure, but if i can save a couple $100 on something, I will). He smiled and said “Well, just plan it when you need to plan it. I’m sure it’ll be fine.”
Everytime I bring the “2 years” teast up now, he just smiles and looks away. Sometimes, I catch him smiling with this far away glance and I poke at him, asking what’s on his mind, and he just looks at me and says “Nothing,” or “I can’t tell you.”
THEEEENNNN this past saturday, we had evening plans to work his non-profit. He asked what I wanted to do before those plans. I couldn’t figure anything out, so he just POPS OUT with “How about we go to Robbins Brothers?” I was in so much shock, I said “No.” Very, VERY quickly I corrected myself and we went. He had the sales Rep measure my ring finger, told him what kind of stuff I liked (and was surprisingly spot on! I guess the obsessive showering of pictures wasn’t entirely bad), and we looked at a few rings. It wasn’t until we were making our last little go around the store without the sales rep that I found the perfect engagement ring. It literally had everything I wanted in a single ring. I asked to look at it, the price was way over budget, but the floor model fit me. My SO told me not to stress the price and had the sales rep open up a file for him at the store. He added that ring to it, took a couple of photos, and we left. We didn’t buy it, he just took the guy’s card.
I know a proposal is still a ways off. We just don’t have the money right now, you know? But HIM asking ME to go look at rings was so out of the blue, so out of character, that it just threw me right back into this whole crazy wedding excitement thing all over again. I’d come to peace with the idea that I wasn’t getting engaged for at least a year, possibly 2. Now I’m struggling with it again! But at least I know it’s going to happen, and I am SO EXCITED!
Long story short-
My SO, who rarely actively participates in wedding talk, asked me to go look at engagement rings with him and now I’m really excited!