- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
My mother’s been teaching for 30 years now and absolutely loves her job, but I see her come home sometimes absolutely heartbroken because of her students’ stories. She teaches Spec Ed, but I know it affects all teachers to have something happen to your students. There have been many teachers that I became close to and came to see as a parental figure, someone to look up to, and I know she feels like a protector for her students in many cases. With her position, many times she’s the advocate for students who cannot speak for themselves. Some with parents or relatives that consider them a burden or a nuisance or simply don’t care about them. It’s the saddest thing and I see how deeply it affects her, especially because many times she knows there is nothing she can do about it.
There are the more mild stories. A student’s drawing won an award and he gave it to my mother. She told him to give it to his mom and he just said, “No, she wouldn’t like it.” It’s now hung proudly in our home. Every year, the teachers in her department “adopt” students to give them a Christmas when they wouldn’t normally. This past year, she gave a little girl a new outfit and some learning workbooks. She was so excited to have books! They didn’t have any at home. Then there are the ones that she just wants to bring home. One little girl has been bounced back and forth between an unfit mother (between relapses) and her aunt and grandmother. None of them want her, but she has no where else to go.And then there are the ones that couldn’t be saved. Kids with cancer or other ailments that take them far too soon. Victims of abuse that wasn’t caught soon enough. She’s gone to more student/parents of her students funerals than anyone ever should.
Today she came home just emotionally drained. She had a student who was unhealthy and the medications she was on were affecting her mentally and making her crazy. Early last week, she confided in the school counselor that her father had been sexually abusing her. Action was taken and the mother came and demanded that they take it back, that obviously she was crazy and making things up. During their independant writing time, the girl had written that she was sorry for telling the truth, but that she couldn’t take it anymore. She wrote about how sad she was that her mom and brothers hated her now for saying anything. At the end of last week, the mom said she was taking her to be evaluated. She said that she hoped they’d institutionalize her. That if it was a matter of getting her husband back and her sons getting their father back, then the girl had to go. Apparently, she wasn’t back at school today.
I could never do what she nor any other teacher or other child-centered careerist does. It takes so much stength and passion and love for what you do.She’s an amazing teacher and just gives so much. I’ve had the pleasure of watching her in the classroom and she just lights up. You can see that she absolutely loves teaching. I just wanted to share how much I truly admire the work y’all do. I know it’s not as simple as just teaching, though that’s a task all its own. Like any profession, it takes a certain person to teach and I have great respect anyone who’s called to do such important work.