(Closed) I know literally everything about the proposal this weekend…

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Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I knew exactly where and when my proposal was going to happen too, and I had picked my own ring. It didn’t ruin anything. Don’t worry about it, you’ll still be thrilled.

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

maybemrs:  Just like the PPs, I definitely knew mine was coming (little romantic trip, dead giveaway the night he took me to a super fancy restaurant).

It was no less romantic (and I was happy for the pre-proposal manicure I treated myself to).

As I was reading your post, I wasn’t sympathizing with your frustration, but smiling fondly at your soon-to-be FI’s apparent joy at asking you to marry him. You are his person and he’s so excited he can’t keep the secret from you!

A year and a half after my own proposal, I just remember our shared joy at being engaged, not knowing it was coming. You will too!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee

i almost stopped reading at ‘to make matters worse’. 

Really? I don’t understand why you’re not just happy. Life isn’t a movie. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

Congratulations! And this won’t change how meaningful it is, believe me. I was there for every step of the process. We picked a setting. Then we found a great stone. Then one day he says “your coming with me to pick up the finished ring”. I was disappointed because I had always asked that it be a surprise. After we picked up the ring and it was on my finger I felt such a let down about how we went about it. So I asked him to propose. And he did. He took me to the spot where we had our first date and got down on one knee and said all these amazing things. And I cried. Full on bawled which surprised the hell out of me.

What I learned that day was no matter how traditional or untraditional we were it did not change the sentiment and emotions of seeing him on one knee with a ring in his hand. Our ring that we had carefully selected together. And weeks later when I asked him why he didn’t just pick it out by himself he told me “Your opinion matters to me. It’s your ring and I’m not going to screw it up for you”. In other words, that ring and that proposal will still stand for the same testimony. The two of you are starting a journey together. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had a pretty good idea when my Dh proposed to me. ..lol. We had looked at rings together a couple weeks before and he planned for us to go to Disney Land on Valentines day. ..lol…so, the only real surprise for me was where he was going to ask. Just try to enjoy this time. .he sounds super excited! 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

Knowing was awesome. I had time to get my hair dyed, do my nails and treat myself to some new makeup. It was only awkward right before it happened. We were driving home in -28 degree celcius weather, at night and he wanted to go for a walk in the park. There was this 5 minutes of awkward silence as we drove to the park because I had no idea what to say and when I got out of the car, I felt even more awkward because I was just kind of waiting for him to direct me to the spot. Everything still was wonderful and yours will be too!

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2016

We didn’t go ring shopping together, but I guessed well enough when he went shopping and when he picked it up because we worked at the same place and I knew when he was taking off work and going to certain parts of town. I also knew it would be in a certain general time from pretty early on, since we wanted to be officially engaged before moving countries, etc. I knew the exact date and location for about a week beforehand. I know he was trying to hide all this from me–e.g., he borrowed a ring from me months ahead of time so I wouldn’t know when exactly he was buying it, and he tried to pretend like the outing was for a different purpose. I know him too well though and he’s not good at hiding things from me, and also one or two mutual coworkers let it slip a bit. I thought it was adorable though and it was still super romantic to me to spend all those days excited about it and pretending not to know while seeing how excited he was about it! And the proposal was about as romantic as they come! Anyway, I was happy to know the date so I was dressed nice, etc. Just enjoy and be happy that he’s so excited he can’t keep from telling you about it!

Post # 38
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Helper bee

hey there.. Hope this makes you feel better! I know exactly what my ring looks like (was even allowed to snap a bazzillion photos of it) and I know he’s proposing in January. We picked my ring out together and decided and planned our future together, to include this very special next step of our lives 🙂 maybe think of if that way? That you collaborated on this special moment in your lives together!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Enoch Turner Schoolhouse

I’m the opposite.  I THOUGHT I knew when and where he would propose.  He bought the diamond with my dad and my dad made my ring.  I know my dad was super excited so I had an idea it would only take him a few days.  Our anniversary was coming up and I knew it would be that day.  The day comes, we go out for dinner, and were out SO late that by the time we got home, and nothing has happened at this point, I thought it was NEVER going to happen.  I was a bit sad going to bed – and then BAM!  He proposed right before we went to bed and it was so unexpected!  He had the ring for 2 weeks and was dying to propose.  He thought about doing it at dinner (when I thought he would do it) but he chickened out and decided to do it at home instead.  I was actually very happy he did it that way.  So yeah, I KNEW, but I was STILL surprised and blown away!

Anything can happen – so don’t worry so much about how the delivery will go, just enjoy the moment!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

maybemrs:  haha, yes. I knew the entire time, but it was still surprising and special. 

You’ll have lots of sentimental moments in your life and marriage together, don’t worry about this one. 

 

 

Post # 41
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Busy bee

My best friend felt like you did before she got engaged.  Her and her now Fiance looked at rings and ordered the setting and diamond together.  She knew how long it was going to take for the ring to come in, and she totally knew that he picked up the ring because he was so excited that he kept dropping hints, thinking that she wouldn’t catch on but she did (guys can be kind of clueless sometimes )

She too was afraid of a let down because her Fiance told me he was going to propose that evening so it was my job to keep her occupied during the day.  We went to a spa and got a mani/pedi done and she laughed that he must be proposing that night.  I played dumb.

When he actually did propose, she was so thrilled – she had been waiting for a while and her feelings of happiness trumped her feelings of knowing and disappointment for knowing, if that makes sense.  The moment was still completely magical for them.  She never told him that she suspected that night – she still lets him think she had no idea.  He gets so excited when he tells the story that she doesn’t want to burst his bubble.

You’ll be fine.  Most proposals are NOT complete surprises.

Post # 42
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Worker bee

I know when it is happening too. My boyfriend told me that he has ordered it and that it will be delivered next Friday (he took the day off of work to be there for it). I’m sure I will get it next weekend, and I am so excited!! I know many women imagine it as a big romantic surprise (which would be lovely), but try to focus on the fact that the man you love wants to marry you and now you can start getting all excited and giddy leading up to it! The proposal is just a small part of the big picture. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

maybemrs:  Did you let him know you wanted the proposal to be a surprise? I think it’s cute that he’s so excited!

Post # 44
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Look at it this way, your man sucks at keeping secrets from you. 

and that’s awesome:-) 

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Aww your fiance sounds so cute!  He is excited 🙂 🙂

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