(Closed) I know my friend is pregnant – do I tell her?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Do I congratulate her now?
    Yes, do it and give her a big fat hug! : (5 votes)
    4 %
    No, wait for them to make the announcement : (123 votes)
    95 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i’d say to definitely wait for her to make an announcement. i feel like telling your friends and family would be a fun thing to do when you’re preggo so you don’t want to ruin it for her. after she tells you, it’d probably be fun to tell her you knew but didn’t want to say anything.

    Post # 4
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    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would definitely wait for her to tell people. I know I would be a bit upset if my friend was telling people I was pregnant before I got the chance.

    Post # 5
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    1493 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    It’s their special moment. Wait until they make the big announcement. Then, tell her about the weddingbee connection.

    Post # 6
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    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Don’t say anything.  There are a lot of us that would/did wait for several weeks/months to say anything for multiple reasons.  Plus you’re at a gathering and even though you think you may be having a private conversation 9 times out of 10 someone has ears and will hear.  It would be horrible to spill the beans before she’s emotionally ready to talk about it.

    Post # 7
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Absolutely not, this is their time and moment and they may not want it to be public amongst their circle for many reasons. I personally would be a little devastated if someone did this to me bc if I ever get the joy to share something like that (very doubtful) I wouldn’t want it to be taken away from me.

    Post # 9
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    365 posts
    Helper bee

    I would wait to tell her, but how cute would it be to have a little gift ready for her when she tells you and you can say, “I knew it!!  Yayy, congratulations!” ((Big hugs)) and produce said baby gift!  Then after your super excited response (which doesn’t take away from her excitment in telling you), you can tell her how you knew and were so excited that you could hardly wait until she officially told you!

    Post # 10
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @ritsi_bitsi:

    I understood what you meant clearly; I never implied you would tell the group. What I was saying it would hurt even if someone said something personally to me and they probably don’t want ANYONE knowing for many reasons.

    Post # 11
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’d be a little creeped out if someone told me they knew something like that without me telling them first. If she hasn’t told you yet, there’s a reason. Don’t blow her own surprise.

    Post # 12
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    5985 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    wait until she tells you and NEVER tell her that you stalked her and found out that way. she might not appreciate that. congrats to your friend! 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I would definitely wait!  If she wanted you to know right now, you would know.

    Post # 14
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    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    I am actually in favor of you telling her now.  Otherwise, you have this voyeuristic window of time where you’re basically ease dropping.  She’s sharing things with you when she thinks that she’s doing so anonymously. 

    Tell her that you’re not trying to pry, but that exactly why you’re telling her.  I personally would much rather know now that later.  It could be rather hurtful that you’ve been hiding the information from her months from now.

    Post # 15
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    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wait for her to tell you! 

    I had a close friend who was pregnant and decided to only tell her parents and siblings in the first 8 weeks. Her father is my electrician, and a few days after she told her family, I had him over to do some work. He spilled the beans to me, and I called her to congratulate. She seemed a little taken aback, but took it ok. 4 days later, she had to call me to tell me she miscarried. I felt SO bad that I put her in the position to have to call and tell me when it was never her intention to tell friends that early.  I should have kept my big mouth shut.

    Post # 16
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    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    yeah, and she might get freaked out and never post again if you tell her you found her on the bee

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