(Closed) I know my Girl will say yes

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Why am i not proposing?
    I enjoy making her suffer : (5 votes)
    5 %
    scared : (77 votes)
    77 %
    shy : (9 votes)
    9 %
    sleeping with one girl for the rest of my life : (9 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 35
    Hostess
    9737 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    @GamerGuy:  She’s probably not upset with you, maybe she is more upset with the situation?  Maybe she thought that you would ask permission and then hurry up and ask her?  

    From the situation I am, which seems pretty similiar, I can give my side…

    My guy has the ring and asked permission and I am aware of that.  I am chomping at the bit for him to ask me, because I can’t wait to tell the whole world “look at us, look at how much we love each other!! we are now ready to tell the world and join our households and families together!!”  i literally want to shout it from the rooftops.. but I can’t until he proposes.  It kind of sucks on the girl’s end because we don’t know when or where and waiting starts to take it’s toll because we literally over examine everything…

    is he not doing it because he doesn’t love me? is he not ready for this?  is there something wrong with me?  what am i doing or what could i do to speed this up? 

    take it from me… waiting is no easy task… it’s getting to the point where it’s unfortunately wearing on our relationship a bit and has become a point of contention because i just want him to ask me and get it over with so i can start planning and people stop asking me EVERYDAY “did he do it yet?”  

    hopefully that doesn’t add any more pressure to your situation, but just know that your girl is anxious/excited/nervous too, and you are basically in control of that since she knows you asked permission.  i would say just rip the bandaid off and get it over with already!  you don’t want to get to the point where she resents her ring or the proposal or thinks you did it because she nagged or pestered you (not saying she is, but i know i can be a little annoying about it at times)

    Post # 36
    Hostess
    9737 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    @GamerGuy:  And you didn’t answer the whole “make her suffer” part of my question? I think that making her suffer will make your entire relationship suffer, bc if she’s not happy then no one is happy!!

    Post # 38
    Member
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Just propose already! Is she a gamer, too? I think that box with the princess and Mario would be perfect.

    If not, just make her a romantic dinner, be super sweet, and get down on one knee.

    Be like Nike, and Just Do It.

     

    Post # 39
    Hostess
    9737 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    @GamerGuy:  My point exactly… she’s getting upset about the proposal.  The proposal should be one of the most intimate, exciting moments of both of your lives!  Now she’s getting upset and you’re getting stressed out.  You know she’s going to say yes… JUST DO IT!  It doesn’t have to be the “perfect proposal” it just has to be what is right for the two of you.  Take my advice and seriously just do it before you guys start fighting about it.  My guy is waiting so long that I contemplated returning the ring because now it just makes me feel a weird jealousy when I think about it… like I’m not good enough to wear it or deserve it.  I know that’s not really true, but seriously, that’s how some girls’ minds work.  We over analyze everything and if your girl is getting upset about it now, that feeling is not going to go away for her, time will only make it worse.

    I think my excitement has come and gone in waves.  When he first got the ring I was literally ecstatic and now that I’ve been waiting for months for him to JUST ASK ME to marry him it’s getting kind of old.  In a way it’s almost ruining the proposal for me

    Post # 40
    Member
    1374 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

    I think it’s totally normal. It’s a big gesture/life decision/expense/change.I had been married for 3 years when my husband did a “do over” of his proposal (Guess he wasn’t happy with the first one?!) and gave me an upgraded ring. He was so nervous and said afterward he felt sick to his stomach all day. So, apparently, even when you are married already, you can still feel this way!

    I would also agree with the other comments to get going on it! 🙂 If she is waiting and getting anxious, it will put a strain on your relationship. Your propsal will be perfect because it’s from you and she wants to marry you! 🙂

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