Post # 1
So, i can’t help but be super bummed by this even though I know it’s a reasonable excuse.
Fiance and I are getting married in Santa Barbara (we live in LA) and our families are from Vancouver and NYC, respectively. My dad passed away a few years ago, so I was really looking forward to having his (LARGE and tight-knit) side of the family there for moral support. My grandparents on that side have a house down here so they all come down to Cali pretty often, at least 2-3 times per year for some of them.
Well, today I got yet another ‘no’ from one of my uncles, so now only four out of about 25 people from his side are coming. I’m super bummed and don’t really understand why me getting married isn’t enough of a reason for them to come down.
What really gets me is that we invited a ton of FI’s friends that live in NYC, and almost every single one of them is making the trek out here for the wedding. I’m super stoked for that, but it makes me feel even more let down by my fam.
Just needed to get that off my chest…anyone else bummed out by some of their RSVPs?
Post # 3
I COMPLETELY understand.
I have no family in Canada other then my mom, dad, brother and daughter.
FI’s family is all here. We are having the wedding in Montreal wish is about 6 hours driving away fromOntario. All our family is from the states.
I feel bummed that they cant come and bummed that I feel like I don’t really have much of “my” side there.
Just try to think about those who can make it and about how awesome your day will be!
Post # 4
I had a few moments like this. My wedding was semi-destination as well. I had a lot of shocking yes RSVPs and even more disheartening no’s. Usually there was a good reason but on 1 or 2 it was a simple, “we don’t want to” and its hard but you get over it. What makes it better is after the wedding when everyone talks about how wonderful it was and the people that didn’t attend suddenly realize there mistake (it helped me at least). In the mean time focus on the positive.
Post # 5
I have the opposite problem. I am praying that we don’t get very many guests, at all!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
That’s gotta suck. Myabe it’s a financial thing for people. Lots of folks are unemployed, under-employed, and/or afraid that they could lose their job at any moment. It could just be financially impossible or risky to spend money on travel for them right now.
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I’m glad to know I’m not alone!
I definitely understand that people are hurting for money, especially now, but a lot of the ones that replied no definitely aren’t!