Post # 1
So I am memeber of AA and proud of it! It’s been over 9 months since I had a drink. Please note I see nothing wrong with normal people, drinking normally. I just can’t drink normally so I put down the bottle and hopped on the wagon.
Anyway I have a few friends in the program who have had dry weddings and wet ones. My sponsor is getting married in May and plans on having a wet wedding. When I get married I know I will have an open bar. Why make my guests suffer because I can’t control myself?
I know a lot of people would disagree and say I shouldn’t put myself through that environment, but really I think I’ll be okay. Heck I attended 4 wedding since getting sober, 1 I was in and another was on NYE. Heck, if I can make it through an open bar on NYE with out drinking, I think I can handle it on my big day too.
Any thoughts? Is anyone else in this situtaion? What have you decided?
Post # 3
I’m not planning my wedding yet, but seriously congrats on staying sober. I’m sure you will be able to control yourself and I proud of you for both taking the steps to help yourself & for posting this thread <3
Post # 4
I’m not in this situation, but if it’s something you are positive you can handle then it sounds like it would be fine to have alcohol at your wedding. Although your health comes first…you are the bride, and if you think it would be best to not have booze at the wedding, that’s completely within your right and your guests should definitley understand!
Post # 5
Congratulations to you for not drinking and admitting your problem. I know a lot of people who need courage like you! I had a a hard time in college with not realizing my limits. I would just drink and drink and drink until I passed out. I still drink now, but I know when to quit. I don’t even like drinking as much anymore. I hate drinking on week nights because even if I have one drink, I’m dehydrated in the morning at work!
Post # 6
Thanks bees. I have to give all the credit to God. He used devine intervention (aka the Police) to show me my problem. And only He has been able to relieve my desire to drink. So I’m sending a Big Ups to my Maker and Deliverer.
Post # 7
Congrats on your sobriety! I’m not personally in that situation but my brother was when he got married in 2009 – he’s been sober since 2002 and his wife never drank much, and just stopped drinking altogether when they started dating. He did not want alcohol at his wedding because many of his AA friends were going to be there, but his wife’s parents were paying and pretty much demanded that alcohol be served at the wedding because they like to drink and so do their friends. I felt bad for him, but I guess he brought it up at a meeting and his AA friends told him that he can’t expect other people not to drink just because he doesn’t. He and his wife couldn’t really do anything about it since her parents were paying. Their wedding was fine, though, they had it early in the daytime to avoid any serious debauchery! And they were too busy to even think about drinking 🙂
Post # 8
Congrats on your sobreity. My father was a mean, raging alcoholic when I was growing up. I commend you so much for seeing the error of your ways. Much prayers and love to you.
Post # 9
Thank you. I hope that my recovery is sustained through the years. I don’t have kids but when/if I do, I’d don’t ever want them to remember me as “a mean, raging alcoholic”
God bless you for sharing.
Post # 10
I’m not in AA but i just wanted to say bravo to you for your sobriety. If you have the strength to have an open bar at your wedding (which it sounds like you do) then I say go for it!
Post # 11
I lost my dad to esophagael/stomach cancer on the 7th but he just celebrated his 20th (or 21?) year being sober and being an active member of AA. My family is quite active in recovery work now and are also in other recovery groups such as Coda, and ACA, and Alanon. Congrats on the sobriety. It’s hard work but the best decision you can do for yourself. With great support you can get through anything.
Post # 12
Congrats on your sobriety, i just hit the 9 month mark myself. I understand what you are going through. I’m having an open bar at my wedding even thoug hI wont be partaking of the booze I want to make sure that my guests do have a good time. It honestly doesnt bother me at all that other people drink around me. I’m in the same train of thought that you are, I cant control my drinking, so i dont drink, but that doesnt mean that I want my guests and familuy to suffer through a night of contrived festivites without some social lubrication.
PS…Seriously though, congrats in your sobriety sweetie, it isnt easy, but isnt it a great feeling no longer being sick and tired?