(Closed) I know this is stupid but I can’t help but to be annoyed

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Can you call her and ask about the name situation?  That’s bizarre. 

How will the RSVP’s work?  If someone is receiving a call, could they pass the word along about where you are registered?

Post # 4
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My friends still accidently call me by my maiden name all the time, I wouldn’t take it personally, it’s’ just what they’re used to.

I’m sure people will call and ask where you’re registered. My mom put that info on the back of the invite for my shower, and many people didn’t turn it over so she got lots of calls and emails asking where I was registered.

She probably just didn’t realize that you would want something to put in the baby book or scrap book, just ask her if there are any extra invites.

Post # 5
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I can understand why you are frustrated.  I have a friend that can be difficult at times also and any time anything comes up with her its easy to get frustrated really easily. 

The maiden name thing could have been a mistake.  She should have taken more time to check her work.  Sure you could flame her for it and make a big deal about it but maybe try to be the bigger person and let it go.

Not including the registration information really isn’t a required thing.  She may have wanted to try to follow etiquette and not include it.  Its really not a big deal to spread the information via word of mouth.  Also, there are only so many baby stores, I’m sure most people will check at BRU.

I understand it would be nice to have an invitation for the scrapbook.  Maybe ask her for one?  Just say something like, I really loved how cute the invites are and I would love to put one in the baby book, do you have an extra?  Maybe ask one of the other hostesses or your mom if you can have theirs if she doesn’t. 

Post # 6
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve actually heard it is bad etiquette to list where you are registered on the invite.  At most, you should put it on a separate piece of paper in the invite.  I’m sure the people who want to buy off the registry will ask when they RSVP, or you can set up a baby blog that has links to your registry.

I accidentally used my sister’s maiden name when announcing her at my reception, oops!  I can see that it is weird when it is on paper to not realize it, though!  Of course, as someone who kept her maiden name, I don’t think it looks weird to have 2 different names on their (mom & baby).

Post # 7
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The name situation would bug me so much!  And I can see why it’s that much more annoying given her personality.  Don’t let it bother you enough to taint your shower in any way though.  The registry info is important to include but it’s all good.  I’d ask your friends/family to spread the info for ya.  It’ll work out 🙂

Post # 8
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yeah I’d totally be super annoyed by the name mixup.  I mean it’s not rocket science!

But at this point the invites are out and there’s not much you can do.  I would definitely bring it to her attention though, just try not to sound too pissed.

Post # 9
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@cannotwait: I think registry etiquette is mainly an issue on wedding invitations and other situations where it’s the guest(s) of honour doing the inviting. Here, a party is being thrown by other people in her and her little bundle of joy’s honour, plus the point of a shower pretty much is gifts, so I don’t see the faux pas in having the registry info on there.

Post # 10
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree 100% with the OP, I would be annoyed too. I mean, I get they refer to you by your maiden name….but putting the baby married name on there? COME ON!!!! ugh, I feel frusturated for you

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