- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
But I have seriously looked high and low for somewhere to vent about this, and I can’t find anyone who seems to be in the same boat as me.
My husband and I have been together for going on 8 years. We were married 7 months ago. So long story short, I want a baby. We always talked about having kids young, even talked about having a honeymoon baby. He always said that he was ready when I was. I decided that I wasn’t quite ready on the honeymoon and wanted to wait a little longer. Well, a few months later I was ready. And then a few months after that, I was REALLY ready. He’s not. He has a million reasons for why we’re not ready: he won’t be able to bike as much, what if we don’t have enough money (we TOTALLY do…we own our own house, make over 6 figures combined, both have really good jobs, etc.), etc.
I KNOW that it really doesn’t matter what his excuses are and that I just have to wait until he’s ready. But HOW? I KNOW it hasn’t been that long, and I’m only 26. But each month that goes by and I have my period, I am more and more resentful of him. I know that the second he hears I’m pregnant, he will be totally fine with it. He adores kids, and we don’t have the kind of life that will change drastically when we have kids (I don’t mean that in the way that some of you might take it….I KNOW that our lives will change, but we don’t go out a lot, don’t have tons of friends coming over, don’t drink or smoke or anything, etc.) So I just feel like he’s not open to the idea even though I know it’s something that would make us both so happy.
I’m sorry if this seems really awful to the girls who are waiting to be proposed to, and I totally get that because I was in the same position. He’s just happy with the status quo. He wasn’t into getting married until he finally proposed, and then he started getting excited. Now he’s so happy we’re married. He didn’t want to get a dog until we got one and now they are inseparable.
So I don’t really know what I’m asking, and I realize that this could come across as offensive to some. I’m sorry if it does. But any advice on how to wait?